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writes:Ok so I told one of my friends 'that I knew I couldnt trust with stuff' some recently personal stuff (yes I know this was stupid thankyou!)and my other close friend told me that the untrustworthy friend had told this girl and was thinking bout telling this other girl that is my ex's twin (my ex still has a soft spot for me and we are starting to get on again and dont want to ruin this) so I confronted her and she was denying it and I just left it because I dont want her to say anything but then at break my close friend told me that she had now told her friend and that someone else had overheard :( so I told my close friend to tell her to stop being a ***** and leave me alone i cant trust her and my lose friend texted me and told me that the untrustworthy one said that she wouldnt say anything else to anyone if I admitted I was lying (i got my friend to try convince her it was a lie to get her back for lying to me) isnt this blackmail?? or something i mean she's basically saying so long as you dont admit it was a lie i will keep telling people xx I dont know what to do, please help she is a proper head casexx
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reader, eddie85  +, writes (15 January 2011):
 I am not sure there are any easy answers here.
I think you've learned a valuable lesson here: don't tell people things that you don't want made public. In addition, you learned something about the person you confided in: she's not to be trusted.
Sadly, there isn't anything you can do at this juncture. The damage is done. If you haven't done so already, be sure you mention that you told her these things "in confidence" and that you hope she respects your wishes. After that, don't hound her -- if you continue to do so, she'll realize she has power over you and be likely to blab.
If she blabs, you'll have to face the music or deny what she says.
Good luck and take it easy.
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