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writes:My gf broke up with me after a fight. We kept talking as friends but she couldn't bring herself to see me. I had a feeling something else wasn't right and after 3 months she finally told me exactly why she was so aprehensive in seeing me. One of the reasons we fell, in my opinion, was while we talked all the time, we left too many things unsaid. And one of them was she didn't like the long, deep conversations we had. She considers herself as someone who has a hard time dealing with her emotions and those conversations were too emotional for her. I apologized but told her I never came to see her with having them in mind. We just started talking and that's what happened. Anyway I hated to go right to something that made her uncomfortable, but now that we had a better understanding of each other, I thought we should meet and talk and see if we can put what happened behind us. She did NOT want to have that talk, just the idea of it made her uncomfortable. After a couple days I told her ok forget the talk, what if we just got together for a fun evening the way we used to. That was 2 weeks ago and she has yet to reply. I'm coming to accept what we had is over(I haven't seen her in 4 months). But suddenly I find it upsetting that someone who I thought I had a strong and close relationship with would rather walk away than talk with me. Am I being unreasonable? And after all this time of not hearing from her and not seeing her, should I reach out to her at all or just let her be?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionStarlights and jj., thanks for the advice. It's what I was thinking. I just....well sometimes I just like to get a second opinion. Thanks again.
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (26 July 2009):
 i think 4 months is a long time to be away from someone and her not contacting you suggest she has moved on somewhat.
& you should also.
everyone is different and interpret love differently,
if she truly loved you she would have reached out and kept you, but she didnt.
so you need to be brave and carry on and not vest to much time worrying about the past.
good luck!
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reader, jj. +, writes (26 July 2009):
move on ..4 months is to long ..move on down the road and find the right one..this one isnt it..move on down the road..asap.
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