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writes: Hi, I met this guy off an online service. We arranged to meet and we hit it off right away. We discussed that we want to see how this will turn out, see what develops if you will. For the two week, he calls me every day. But now, he hasn't called. After the 3rd day without a phone call from him, I called him to see if everything was okay. He said he had come down with something, the flu maybe, and that he will call me later in the day when he is done with his errands. Sure enough, he didn't call, so I texted him toward the end of the night and told him that if it's such trouble for him to call me then I will make it easy on him by telling him not to call me anymore. That night, he kept on calling. We talked and he kept on apologizing. I told him that being sick is not an excuse to breaking a promise, especially when he is still capable of doing errands. All he said was that he was sorry. Then, he said he will call me the next day. Even promised that he will! He didn't call at all! Nothing.I'm really confused right now. I don't know what to think. Should I just move on, or should I wait? He really is a nice guy up until he breaks promises about calling. I just don't see him to be so heartless as to leave a girl hanging. What should I do?
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reader, Italiandiva214 +, writes (6 January 2006):
 If he's already breaking promises this early on, imagine what he'll do later! Break it off, find someone who doesn't make excuses on why he didnt call and find someone who wants to call! U deserve sooo much better!! :0)
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reader, purrfectionist84 +, writes (5 January 2006):
 Don't contact him anymore. If he really cares about you, then he'll make an effort to contact you again once he gets his head screwed back on straight. I went through a similar ordeal with my ex-boyfriend, who I also met online, later met in person, and hit it off with. He stopped calling and e-mailing every now and then. He had so many excuses why he wasn't spending time with me, and throughout the four years that we communicated online, our relationship was on and off. Sometimes I'd go a month without hearing from him (though I'd keep attempting to contact him), worry that he was dead or something, and then he'd eventually write, saying that he was just really busy. (He used the sickness excuse, too.) He seemed like a nice guy, but he was too wrapped up in himself to put any real effort into the relationship. He was constantly breaking his promises, too, and that didn't change one bit over the four years that we dated.
You don't deserve to be with someone who doesn't make you a priority. Anyone who wants to be with you should put more effort into the relationship. You shouldn't be the only one who makes the phone calls and does all of the work. It'll make you loathe him in the end, trust me.
If things are going this way early on, when he is supposed to be making a good impression, then they probably won't change in the future.
I think that you should date around and explore your options. This guy sounds pretty selfish to me.
Good luck!
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