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writes:I'm 14 (Please, no comments saying I'm too young for a boyfriend, they don't help) and I'm going out with this boy who has been my close friend for about 2 years. He's liked me since we were 12 but I wasn't interested in him. Time went on then I started liking him back, well I thought I did. Now, we're going out and I'm not sure if I really like him or if I just thought I did because he's my friend. He tells me he loves me and, out of politeness, I say I do too. I don't know what to do. I don't wanna hurt him but I don't really want to stay in this relationship not knowing how I really feel about him , but I do know the longer I keep it up the more hurt he'll probably be in the end. I don't really wanna talk to him about this because he's quite emotional and not that confident in himself. I have withdrawn myself slightly and he told a mutual friend of ours that he feels like I'm rejecting him, I don't mean to, I just, I dunno, just any advice? Thanks xo Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2012): Thanks for the advice xo
The over-all message is that I should talk to him, I'll try to build up the courage for that. I was also wondering, if it would be a bad idea to stay with him and hope for the best? Like, maybe I could learn to like him more and I haven't given him the opportunity, or is that just wishful thinking?
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reader, BondGirl72  +, writes (22 September 2012):
 A word of advice: Do not ever tell a man, or boy, you love him out of politeness. It is superficial and can be very hurtful if you don't really care about him in that way. He has probably realized that you do not like him in that way and is wondering what is going on.
The right thing to do is talk to him and tell him exactly what you have told us. You thought you liked him as a boyfriend, but you'd rather be friends because you are not sure. It will hurt him, but you cannot keep living a lie with him.
The hard thing about relationships is that sometimes they don't work out, and you need to do the hard thing and talk to the person. If you feel like you cannot do these types of things, I would wait awhile to get into another one.
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reader, lmao1989 +, writes (22 September 2012):
 You've probably withdrawn because you feel this isn't your true love.It seems like you're staying with him out of politeness too and that shouldn't be the way you need to do what's right for yourself and him.He's going to be hurt whether you end the relationship now or whether it happens a few weeks, months down the line. He'll be able to move on as will you and find out who your true love it.
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