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30-35,
anonymous
writes: So I fell for this guy about 3 months ago, and I thought he really liked me. One night he kissed me (he is only the 2nd guy I have kissed) but it was so amazing. He was gentle and lovely. I found out later he tried to kiss someone else that nite. I wanted to give him a chance to make up for it, but he was too lazy to try. Im still pining for him. I want it to stop so bad. Iv tried hobbies, and seeing him as a jerk, but I still pine for that kiss. Im obviously an idiot, what can I do.
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reader, Trinklett +, writes (2 March 2012):
Chalk it up to experience and move on. This guy is definitely not worth your while. I hope you meet a great guy next time.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (1 March 2012):
Are you going to be in Florida, USA any time soon? IF so, please stop by and I'll give you a kiss that will make the one you are pining for seem like a peck-on-the-cheek from your Grandmother!!!!!
Do you need my phone number?????
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (1 March 2012):
Go out and kiss another frog!
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reader, YouWish +, writes (1 March 2012):
He was gentle and lovely, but he was obviously not serious. He didn't attach the emotional significance to that kiss that you did, and if you're 22-25 and this is the second guy you kissed, that makes sense that it would be more momentous to you.
What is there to pine for?? A kiss is just a kiss. That didn't make him Prince charming (more like Prince Player). You've built him up in your mind as more than he is. I'm guessing that you'll meet someone who can kiss 100 times better than this guy.
When I was a little kid, I thought that being taken to McDonalds was the coolest thing. I'd get a happy meal and think that it was the greatest treat I could get, because my parents had very little money. Now, as a grownup, McDonalds is gross, and I've had a lot better!
Think of this guy's kiss as McDonalds. It's new to you, so you think it's the world. But it's only gross, greasy fast food served up to you with all the carelessness of a bored, 15 year old kid, rather than a gourmet first class meal served by a distinguished chef.
Trust me, once you see what you've really been missing, this guy will mean absolutely nothing to you, and neither will his kiss.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (1 March 2012):
Not much you can do sadly other than keep pulling yourself back to reality and get on with your life. There are a lot of jerks out there (both men and women) and a kiss doesn't really mean very much.
You arn't an idiot, you are maybe just someone who doesn't have a whole lot of experience in relationships but longs to be loved and happy (like we all do). Set your sights a little higher and if someone acts like a twat (like this bloke has) forget them and move on.
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