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writes:Okay well im 16 atm, and theres this girl 14. I have known her since the day she was born, and we have always been soo close. See tells me everything, and can even help me out when im down.but recently she has broken up with her bf, and im worried she is starting to fall for me. We have always been very close and have got the hugs, kiss on the head, cuddle when shes down etc. but now ever since her breakup its been alot more than usual, and she keeps wanting me to hold her, hug her and cuddle up on the sofa, and im getting worried she is falling for me, and i dont want her to get hurt more if i have to turn her down.any advice or ideas ? Reply to this Question
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reader, kenny +, writes (24 October 2007):
 Maybe because you have known her for so long she feels totally comfortable with you and is just letting out her emotions the only way she knows how. If you feel it is more then all you can be is brutally honest with her and tell her that nothing can ever materialise between the pair of you. Tell he you think she is a great girl and you don't want to lose the friendship you both have, and that you are there for her if she needs you, as a friend.
Good luck x
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reader, Karlos Omnis +, writes (24 October 2007):
 Don't jump to conclusions for a start, some girls and women are just very affectionate people, without actually having loving feelings.
Do not confuse love for a caring attitude.
however, you can make it quite clear that you are not interested, by
a) keeping your hands in the "safe zones"
b) avoiding "relationship-esque" talk such as sexual experiences
c) not responding to (if) any advances that she may or may not make.
It seems you have a mature way of thinking, so hopefully you won't let your secondary brain get the better of your intentions.
Just like to tack on that if you did do anything you'd be trialed for statutory rape.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (24 October 2007):
 If you are that close then you know deep down where this could lead to if she had her way, so the only way you can sort this is to have a chat with her and let her know exactly where the line is when it comes to your friendship, and hey she may well find that hard to accept but at least it might stop any potentionally embarrasing moments.
Take carexx.
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