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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have recently moved to live with my long distance boyfriend. In a few days time I'll be meeting one of his female friends. I get the feeling that this girl has become used to being adored by all her male friends and may not appreciate me taking some attention away from her. I've heard many of my boyfriend's friends refer to her as pretty, cool, fun, smart etc and she's the only female in that group of friends (because they are studying to work in a profession that is dominated by men). I'm afraid that she'll try to dismiss me and thus influence the other boys to not accept me, or she may try to make insider references so that I feel excluded. I could be completely off-base about her character, but just in case, I was wondering if anyone has any tips as to how I could show her that I am here to stay and am not intimidated by her? I have no intention of being anything but friendly and polite if she treats me that way, but I want to be prepared just in case. I don't want her to think she can push me around or take my boyfriend's attention away from me. Thanks :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2014): This is the original poster. I met this girl but we only spoke briefly. I approached her and introduced myself and said hi. She was very friendly back to me. Unfortunately she was also very pretty. I'm reasonably attractive but I know that my boyfriend used to think she was much better looking than me. He was very attracted to her. Now having met her and seen how pretty she is I know I can never make myself look better to him than she does and it makes me sad.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (15 July 2014):
 Hey Honeypie, did you notice I used Caps in my response? I thought you would appreciate it.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (15 July 2014):
 I agree don't expect the worst, be who you are and be nice. INCLUDE HER, show her you aren't one of those girls who can't handle "female competition", because THIS isn't a competition.
IF she does turn out to be what you fear she could be, "kill" her with kindness.
Either way BE nice, be kind and she can't do squat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2014): Don't expect the worst. Be nice. Your boyfriend goes home with you at the end of the night.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (15 July 2014):
Relax and just be yourself. Don't worry about stuff until you need to worry about stuff. You may end up becoming great friends. He's her friend and he's your BOYFRIEND, there is a reason why you both are in your classifications. So relax and meet her with an open mind, you'll be fine.
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