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writes:There's this girl in my English class and I think she might like me. You see on the first day of school the teacher made us do this thing where we have contact buddies and she was mine. A contact buddy is someone who you give your number to just in case you miss school. Anyhow the other day she told me she had a new number, without realizing I told her it was ok because I won't call if I miss school, but I think maybe she was trying to just give me her number. Also she's always saying she's single. She never says it directly to me but always around me, and I always catch her staring at me. She's really cute and stuff so if I thought she was interested I would probably ask her out. So tell me what you guys think. Any help is appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2010): There are two things you want to keep in mind. Your personality type, and her personality type. I cannot determine much about her just by what this says, but if she's starring at you, she's interested, but shy to talk to you. Now also, based on your/her personality (example: Gamer geek, jock, gothic, artistic, scholar, etc), will usually depend on the conversation you should have with her.
Most guys at your age usually get the best ladies first, so, you also need to keep in mind how much time you have if you want to make a move on her, but not so fast that it would scare her off.
With both two items above in mind, here's what you need to do... which I am giving you two strategies to see how this will work out. Remember, be observant! Watch what she is drinking (coca-cola, sprite, tea, etc), as this will come in handy. Also, Pay attention on how she reacts with her group of friends, and their general conversations.
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Mr. "Brave" and Ms. "Helping Hand" Type:
Based on what I know, you could ask for her help with something during lunch. Ask her if she is free during lunch, and if she can help you. Now, keep in mind, this has a higher failure rate than "Mr. Shy" type, but this could work very well, if it does. You'll also need about $5, so if you really want to be sweet, you can give that money up to buy part of her lunch, or get her something really nice to drink. Now, make sure you already had started the assignment, and possible, make purposeful typos, and errors. Just start talking about how to fix it. Then, act distracted for a moment, and compliment her on her hair, eyes (or glasses), teeth, nose, etc. Just make sure you keep anything related to specific "body parts" off limits during your compliment. Generally, I'd go with: "You look really pretty today" "Aww thanks" "I'm sorry, let's get back to work," because that tends to work for me. Then, resume your work, and either slowly sidetrack to another conversation, and just start talking about something else, or finish your work, and just talk about favorite foods, and slowly drift a conversation from there. Now, keep in mind, if you finish your work, and she wants to go somewhere else, you'll have to let her, and accept that you have lost her for now. If you "drift", this could work quite well, but keep in mind, if your next class is English, and your work isn't done, you will suffer. Either way, when it's time to go, tell her "I'll cya later" while waving at her. Depending on how far you want to risk it, you can wink at her, while looking at her directly in the eyes, or you can just simply smile at her while looking into her eyes, and into her soul, so to speak. Now, however, (some girls find just simply smiling as a way of flirting :), and some don't take it as flirting, so sometimes you need to up the ante with a wink ;) ).
Mr. "Shy" and Ms. "???" Type:
Since you said you have "contact" buddies, my advice is just ask for help with your homework (even if you don't need it), and see where the conversation goes from there. Generally, whenever I did this, the conversation will slowly start to sidetrack to another subject. So, if you are talking about how the grammar is incorrect in your paper (similar to "Mr Brave" above), then If you really want to, ask her what's she's listening to for music before you called her, and build a small conversation off of that. Then, get back to work, and then, if either one of you decides to end the conversation, end it with a "sweet dream", "Sleep well", and when you really get to know her (like, a few weeks later), go with: "Miss you", or "Be safe". Just DON'T call her EVERY SINGLE NIGHT, or she'll think you are too needy, or you are not smart enough to handle it on your own... but don't do it so infrequently, that she doesn't remember you all to well, (unless she the type who goes crazy without you).
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Hopefully, those two strategies will work. Just keep in mind, what you talk about, has got to be compatible to your true self, and her true self. Don't make up anything fake, or you WILL lose her. Just be yourself. Remember, if your personality just doesn't cut it, it's not the end of the world. You can try again with her a year later, or find another girl. Good luck.
From:
~The Modern Phantom of the Opera
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reader, Sorry miss +, writes (12 September 2010):
This girl is crushing on you I would go for it
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reader, Duckyhelp  +, writes (12 September 2010):
 If you like her, ask her out for defo!
She seems totaly into you :)
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reader, Blod +, writes (11 September 2010):
 Yeah, I think your instincts are right. She definitely seems to like you. So if you're interested, go for it!
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