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writes:I met a guy 6 weeks ago on an aeroplane (it feels longer for both of u). we were both going to different destinations and i was ending up where he was on his last night so we arranged to meet - i text him but wasn't expecting a reply but was pleasantly surprised when i received one. we met up on the last night of his holiday and i felt a big connection and he spent the night with me - it just felt really right. i was really disheartened when he left early the next morning but he told me to text him that night - thought he was just saying it so i wouldn't feel used. i texted him the next day and two hours later still hadn't received a reply so didn't think i would hear anything more. he texted me that evening saying we had a wicked connection and that he was so close to cancelling his flight home! he met me a week later in Ibiza for a weeks holiday and we had such fantastic time together, i then went home to his house for a few days. since then i've been to his for the last few weeks - four days each and he's told me that he's falling for me and hates the thought of me with any other man and the feeling is very very mutual. he is going to america in three weeks (for 3 months) and has invited me to go with him for a few weeks but i don't have the money and i can't get time off of work but i really would have loved to have gone. the day before i was due to leave his house we were talking and he suggested staying with me and my family this weekend - very surprised as when i suggested it a few weeks ago he said he's find it awkward but as the weeks have gone on says he feels very comfortable with me. he's been very cold the last few days in texts - the other night i texted him 'do you want me to call you later babes?' he replied 'i'll be asleep later' (it would have been 9pm and he doesn't go to sleep until early hours!). he texted me late last night to say he wouldn't be over to mine this weeks as he's working but didn't mention meeting another time neither did he sound bothered. i don't understand him. i now haven't heard from him for over nearly two days (i know it sounds silly but we have texted everyday for the last 6 weeks). should i forget him? i don't want to seem desperate and he knows full well how i feel!
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reader, xanthic  +, writes (12 September 2010):
 Unfortunately, he may have been caught up in the moment and simply lost interest. I can't say for certain because as you said, it's only been two days, but it sounds as though he's suddenly apathetic with no foreseen reason. This tends to happen when someone lacks the maturity to do more than pull away, rather than face the issue.
It's a hard thing to deal with when you're on the receiving end, especially when things seemed to go so well, but the best thing to do is not linger on it. Distract yourself, find love elsewhere.
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