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writes:hey everyone im just wondering if anyone else views this situation the way i do..so here goes, i live with my fiance and a friend of his that is a guy. we have all been living together about 6 months or so. at first i wasnt very comfortable around our roomie simply because i didnt know him very well, we had only hung out as a group a few times. anyways as time has progressed, i feel as if he flirts with me and occasionally i will catch myself doing it back and i immediately stop. for some examples, i will catch him staring at me and then he will smirk when i look at him, he is always ready to do anything i ask my finace to do..like take the trash out or so on..and just little things that are hard to describe. i think we just also have some sexual tension. he is attractive and very in shape and when he describes the type of girl he likes i could easily fall into that category. what really seemed to set it all off was him seeing my fiancée and i have sex on accident.. ever since i feel as if he watches me more. and sadly to say i dont dislike the attention. he has girls over alottt and of course that have sex and thats all he ever wants from them and he has also told my finace that in the past him and his friends would share girls! that would never be okay with me or my man. he has also told my fiancée that he thinks im one of the most laid back girls he knows and that im probably a great girlfriend..i just dont know how to feel about any of this..maybe its just harmless flirting but i feel like its something more. i would never leave my fiancée for him and i would never cheat no matter how tempting it may be. should i tell him about the roomie or just let it go..im not exactly worried about it. i just dont want it to end up blowing up in my face or something. any thoughts would be greatly appreciated. thanks in advance.
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (31 March 2011):
 Sounds like a good plan. :) good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you both for your advice. i think i will see how things go for a little longer and try to make sure i dont do any flirting in return and see if it all stops and if so then i will let it go and if he doesnt stop soon then i will just tell my fiancee.
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (30 March 2011):
It sounds like harmless flirting to me, at least right now it is. IF I were in your position I would sit down and talk with my fiance and let him know about the roomie. Tell him there is harmless flirting going on and how he makes you feel a little uncomfortable and so on.
Don't blow it out of proportion, just tell him that you wanted to give him a heads up, etc.
I feel the same way about the whole sharing of the girls with friends. I think that is gross and so does my fiance.
Good luck to you and I think your fiance will be pretty understanding especially when you tell him that you would never do anyting with the roomie, but you wanted him to know what is going on.
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