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writes:I just want to hear other thoughts to my husbands actions.Ok in december 2012 my husband was supposed to be at a certain place getting fencing post for a friends farm. ok so when he got home i noticed he didnt look dirty and i just had that feeling somethings up (my husband lies and says he lies because of how i act which i tell him im reacting like this because i caught u lying). ok i knew right away he was bullshitting me but i choose not to say anything to him. so the next morning i dont know why i just felt the need to call his phone and a girl answered it and i hung up. so i went out back and confronted him on itHe said i must of dropped when i was at so and so's house but i never heard of this so and so and that girl stays there. I dont think hes cheating but i know he was hoping so. He says no she is just there when he goes to his friends house. this caused major issues for 3 weeks more so to myself i was very sad cuz i know he was lying about his intentions. ok now its march 2013 i put my phone in his truck on record so it recorded him asking someone if (a different girl) she was up there, im assuming an apartment not sure but he was out of the truck so it was muffled a little. anyways he ask for the man he was talking to to go tell her to come down here the man said something i couldnt hear then i heard my husband say ok yeah but can u run up and tell her to come down and the man repliedd and my husband said oh and got in truck and left drove home. so when i got home i listen to it and confronted him right away i asked who the f**ck is (girls name) is he said just some girl who is also over at jays and i was looking for sam and shes is always with him or knows his whereabouts. i know hes bullshiting me i know when he lying. i dont know i just need to hear what others think. He says im crazy . Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2013): Something about his stories and activities sounds a bit off to me. If you can, hire a private investigator to observe him for a few days. That will either confirm your concerns or prove he is innocence. Personally, i always think you must be on to something if a guy who`s acting suspiciously suddenly starts calling you crazy!
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reader, CMMP +, writes (30 March 2013):
His behavior isn't ideal, but nothing you've said would make me think he's definitely cheating. I think your paranoia about him lying is causing you to behave a little irrationally and see everything as a sign he's cheating.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (30 March 2013):
 To be honest from what you have said, I don't think you have any firm evidence that your husband is cheating, it seems to be very much your own insecurities that are convincing you that something is going on.
As tempting as it is to keep on at a spouse about lying and cheating, thinking it will make them confess...usually it has the opposite effect and they will do it anyways because you keep on and on!!
If you think your relationship is in trouble, maybe ask your husband to see a relationship therapist with you, so you can find a better way to communicate your feelings. Just accusing your husband over and over on a hunch with inevitably end your marriage.
Snooping and setting traps for your husband, coupled with accusations with no basis is a recipe for disaster.
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