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writes: i know my husband is up to something everytime i ask him straight out he makes an excuse and has to go somewhere or hides behind the kids how do i bluff him so that he has no option but to be straight when anyone comes in he's very attentive to me always complimenting me but gut feeling tells me he's either done something or been thinking about it i did tell him but he denys it he keeps his phone switched off when i checked it there's a call same time everyday that comes up no number he went on computer the other day then rushed out saying had to go see his pal he was back shortly but his pal stays about half an hour away and hes usually away for hours when goes to see him when a asked him where he had been he got in a fluster about it said he was at his pals but didn't wait i got the impression he was going to meet someone but changed mind at last minute a don't want to be sitting here and next time might not change his mind hes got habit off going on like this if we've fell out but rather than getting things sorted out he runs out the door when i told him about it he did beg me no to leave him and said he needed help he just doesn't know how to sit and talk things through i told him i'm different i say whats on my mind i've always made sure he knows where he stands with me i've found with him if i prove he's done something thats when he tends to face up to it when things are ok with him he can be the nicest guy and great dad just now and again its as if he gets stupid ideas in his head its always been selfish things up till now like buying something when knows fine we could't afford it but this time its different Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2006): i reckon...u shud seduce him...get abit saucey...handcuff him...n wen het gets excited...say ERMMM...IM SORRY..BUT NO..NOT UNTILLL U TELLL ME WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON!..either that or hide something of his...so when he wants it he will have to make sum kinda exchange for it...do it in a nice way tho...n obv the exchange wud be sum answers!!!
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reader, camille  +, writes (20 October 2006):
 I trust my gut instinct more than anything and it sounds to me like you have just cause for concern. You need to get your husband somewhere where he cannot avoid the question. Take a trip and whilst travelling down the motorway, ask him then! Or get a train somewhere. Anywhere where there is no escape. Otherwise you'll end up following him. I presume his phone is pay as you go, so there's no phone bill to look at? You are both individuals and so have the right to privacy, but as half of a couple you have a right to know what's going on. The next time you confront him, make it clear that this time you will not accept his denial/excuses/ etc and that if he doesn't explain, tell him you will be looking into getting a solicitor, that shoudl hopefully show him you're serious.
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