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writes:I need advice, me and my husband have been married for 15 years and have three kids. He has also cheated on me 3 times and one of the times got thown in jail for it and then three years down the road he cheated again. After the last time he cheated he was sleeping with the other women, me and then we decided to have a threesome with an escort. We both were ok with it but then it became all the time and we ended up doing it 3 more times. Then i found out he cheated and it all stopped, until now again. He always wants to get another women, always try to pick up someone at the bar to take home and he does not hide it in front of all his friends. Last week one of his friends was grossed out because my husband painted a pic of me going home and having sex with another guy. He wants me all the time to go have sex with some other guy, he has mentioned my sister before and having sex, no he states he crossed the line once again and now to solve this problem he does not go out. He says sorry about the way he acts as he is drunk sometimes and sober other times, but then two weeks later its the same story HELP
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2010): After 15 years, there isn't much you can do to help your husband, he has to seriously want to get help himself. If he does then maybe there's something worth salvaging. If he doesn't, then why should you put up with something you are uncomfortable with??
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2010): I don’t believe there is nothing you can do…there is always always an answer!!!You opened a very dangerous door with the 3some however he is still your husband and has not left. I am sorry you have had to go through all this pain and confusion. You didn’t leave him so that tells me even after 15 years you are still in love with him and I would say he loves you. My view you need to decide Yes to group sex or No! Whatever choice you make is your own. If you do not want to have other people in your bedroom then find things to spice up your sex life at home. Video, toys, whips, chains, etc. If you decide to keep going with other sexual partners then you would have to establish rules that you both agree on. Example never have the same person more than 2 times, never can it be done without your partner. This would not allow him to cheat!! Can he do that? Only you know what you and your husband can or cannot handle dear. Talk, talk, talk, and then talk some more. Find out why he gets so excited from having other people involved. If you too can be 110% honest with yourselves and each other regardless how you handle this situation your marriage will better then you even know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2010): if hes been doing this ofr 15 years i dont think there s
is any thing you can do to stop him you cant say its ok to have threesomes and be ok with some stuff and not other stuff im sure he is a sex addict but unfortunatley unless he wants help to sort himself out there is nothing you can do about it
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