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writes: My girlfriend's sister is overly nice to me and I can't help but think she might have feelings for me. I'm 24, my girlfriend is 25 and her sister is 19. She does have a boyfriend herself and seems happy enough with him but whenever he's not around that's when she starts rolling out the red carpet for me.Me and my girlfriend have a 2 year old son together so we're around at her mum and dad's house a lot, which is where her sister also lives. Whenever she plays with him she's always trying to make him laugh which is normal but then she looks at me as if she's looking for my seal of approval or hoping that I'm impressed. I don't need to be impressed because I know she's a brilliant Aunt to my son.She laughs at my jokes even when they're not that funny, she always wants to sit next to me at the dinner table and the other week she bought me tickets to a football match just to be 'nice'. I don't know if I'm looking to much into things; she could just be being nice to me for all I know, but I can't help but think if one day we end up alone together she might try and kiss me. I don't have any feelings for her as it's wrong on so many levels and I love my girlfriend so I'm not worried about 'mistakes' or 'one thing leading to another' but it does make me feel uncomfortable being around her.Am I just being silly? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (26 March 2013):
 I'm thinking she has a bit of a crush and you are picking up on it,... nothing wrong with that...
just continue to treat her as a sister and make it clear over an over that you don't see her that way... it will pass.
I would not talk to your gf as the rivalry between sisters can be intense and that may make it worse.
should the quasi sister in law (and if you marry her sister it won't be quasi and maybe if she does have a crush she will back off) get inappropriate, then it's time to bring her big sister in to put her in her place
but for right now... it's nothing. and if you are noticing it, well then how much are you watching said QSIL?
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reader, CMMP +, writes (26 March 2013):
I'd say that she's behaved totally appropriately from what you say here, so at this point you might be overreacting.
What's wrong with her having a little crush on you if she never acts on it? Nothing as far as I'm concerned!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2013): free football tickets. Nice one.
Ok, don't make an issue out of this, and stop reading into it. Maybe she does and maybe she doesn't. If you aren't going to act I wouldn't give it any more thought.
Just accept that she is a nice girl and you are devoted to her sister. If you keep acting awkward then your gf will pick up on it and she will no doubt become less trusting, and will cause issues.
Don't let it get to that. If however she does come onto you then just politely say no. Hopefully this will never happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2013): Try talking to your girlfriend about it when you have the chance, and make sure you're just worried if what you think she is doing is the case so that you don't come off the wrong way to her. Your girlfriend knows her sister better, no doubt, and might be able to help figure things out, or even tell her sister to back off.
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reader, uzer  +, writes (25 March 2013):
Talk to your girlfriend about your discomfort.
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