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writes:Well I'm a 20 year old male and I had a bit of a shock last night. I've been going out with my girlfriend for about 2 years now and we're both very happy together. However last night I had a bit of a shock. We went on holiday with her friend and my best friend and some others. Now she's known my best friend longer than I have. They didn't get on for years but now she's decided he's okay. No problem with that! However she was chatting to him quite a lot on holiday and talking to me less. Then last night we were at a pub with me, him, my gf and 2 of her friends and my gf chatted to him a lot towards the end of the night, and at one point while he was speaking, she's was sat staring straight at him, let over the table twirling her hair. I saw that as openly flirting as I have never seen her play with her hair like that before. I confronted her about it and she said she was doing it to get my attention but I don't believe that. However she did rest her head on me while we were in the pub and kiss me which is obviously a good sign. She also told me that she loves me and doesn't want anyone else. For some reason though I just can't shake this horrible feeling that she fancies my friend.Thanks for any help in advance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2014): Unless your girlfriend has a proven habit of twirling her hair in order to flirt, I don't see how twirling one's hair while listening to someone speak is flirting. Was she giving him bedroom eyes?
If someone is talking and I'm listening, I might choose to stare right at the person who's speaking. Also, if people have habits, they will tap the table, play with their hair, etc...
I mean, maybe she does fancy her and your friend. But, I don't think you should use the hair twirling as an indicator.
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reader, PrincessRiches +, writes (4 August 2014):
 I would'nt read too much in to it! When you confronted her, the fact that she didn't deny flirting with him shows that she probably really WAS doing it to get your attention. If she was flirting with him because she fancied him, she probably would have got all defensive and denied the whole thing. If she had been drinking, she probably didn't realise the extent she was flirting. All girls have played up to get their boyfriends attention, I've done it many a time!! But alcohol affects judgement, so she probably didn't realise when she crossed the line from harmless, subltle flirting to blatant and obvious. I personally think she just wanted some attention from you, even though she didn't go about it in a good way. She's told you she loves you and wants YOU, so try to be reassured and be glad that her and this friend of yours now get on. That being said, if you are all together again and she flirts with him in front of you( or flirts with any other guy) to the point where it makes you uncomfortable, then you need to tell her (when she's sober!) that this is not acceptable. If she's who you think she is she would never cheat, and if your friend is one worth having, he would never go there. If you were to ever find out any thing ever did go on between them, you'd be well shot of both of them.
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