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writes:At the beginning of our relationship, he mentioned his ex a couple times, and I sort of took it as a compliment because he was so willing to open up to me. He said she put him through a lot, blah blah blah, and basically I'm pretty sure she broke his heart. It's been 3 years since they broke up, and I'm the first girlfriend he's actually had since then. However, lately he sort of brings her up a lot, and most of it is after we just had sex. I don't want to go into too much detail, but he pretty much relates a past experience with her to what we did and shares it with me. I'm starting to get scared that he's fantasizing about her or something. Besides in the bedroom, one time he brought her up again,and I asked if he would ever get back together with her and instead of saying no, he said "Well I'm not sure, I'm sure both of us have changed a little bit since it's been so long, but if I could go back I would because we had so much fun together." Should I be worried?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2009): i am going through the exact same crisis, but mine always mentions that she was "different" and that she was the first girl he actually loved instead of relating via sex. I think you should definitely be worried because hes probably still not over her if he talks about her that much, and he may be going out with you to try to get over her
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2009): Yes, I personally think that if there is a slight chance / possibility that he is considering that he wants to get back together with her... OMG- run the other way. I already broke up with my ex of 4 years and I know there not one chance i will get back with him even though we had the best times together. I've never met anyone who made me as happy that much BUT I know we're better off apart. Do not stick up for this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2009): If he loved u he wouldn't even give it a second thought he wld just wANT TO BE WITH YOU WITHOUT A DOUBT.
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reader, shellie203 +, writes (10 July 2009):
yes, u need to be worried i mean if he said that to u his girlfriend that the only reason he won;t go back is because she might have changed? thats messed up and you don't need ANYONE like that in ur life ur young and can find someone else instead of dealing with him i think he wasn't over her when ya'll got together and instead of him being a man and tell you( which they never do) he was a punk no man who is your boyfriend and loves you would say that leave him alone for awhile i mean some months and see if he comes back i'm not sure how long you guys have been dating but no women should be 2nd best to any man not saying he doesn't care for you but obviously not as much as his ex and thats not fair to you!
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reader, iloveyhoo  +, writes (10 July 2009):
 yes i think he is trying ot give you hints slowly about something, and he might be trying to find a way to not break your heart as much ?
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