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writes:im 16 years old and me and my bf (17) have been dating for 5 months now and almost 2 months ago i lost my v card to him. and i think he is secretly trying to get me pregnant becouse he is always saying how bad he wants to be a dad and he doesnt want to use any kind of protection. but im not ready to be a mom. and i really do love him! so should i get prego so he can be a dad or should i break up with him? please help!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2012): birth control, ever heard of it? get the implant before its too late, you are too young for this... and if you want to know the answer about getting pregnant ask a family member... that should tell you
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reader, mooh  +, writes (9 June 2012):
Have a clear talk with your boyfriend and explicitly tell him you do not want any children at the moment or in the near future (if he loves you, he will understand). You can also tell him some reasons why you do not want to have children at such a young age so maybe he can think twice about it too (e.g. you don't have the financial resources to raise a human being yet, you want to go to college etc). Making a baby should be the decision of both people and not just one! This is for the baby's sake.
Just in case, can you check if some other contraceptions are available and that you can control? the Pill would greatly help to diminish the probabilities to get pregnant and are more discreet then wearing a diaphragme for example.
Good luck!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 June 2012):
 You do not need to do either. You are way to young to be a mother and I am glad you realise that, however you asking should you get pregnant shows me that you are still immature in a couple of ways, because you should never get pregnant to keep some guy happy. You are both very young and if he changed his mind you would be the one left holding the baby. So no you should not get pregnant. So make sure you go to the doctor to get on some sort of contraception and also please do not have intercourse with him without using a condom as well. Make sure you keep yourself safe.
You need to talk to him, tell him you love him and you want to be with him but you are just to young and not ready to be a mother. You both have only been together 5 months, it is way to soon to be thinking about children anyway. Explain to him that you want to live life for a while first and that children is something that you can both think about in the future if you are both still together. If he cannot accept this then it is his problem.
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