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writes: I have been seein my boyfriend for 10 months now and a think he is starting to get bored of me beczuse everytime i ask him does he want to come to my house he always has a excuse as to why he cant come and i am reli worried because i like him alot and dont want to lose him. please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2011): I am in kinda same situation , I know my boyfriend for months I was living in Ny and he was excited to come to see me..I moved two months with him now.I feel really he is bored until point our relationship in bed getting colder day after another.Plus his ex girl was crazy about him,she was writting to me and she confronted me in his place and we called the cops.There still the shadow of her , I committed a suicide because of him and after all he is bored of me even in bed.I dont understand men in general.The only thing that I can share with all of you is"dont care about himm,try to make him jealous and he will run after u"
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): i think all boys belongs to this category only evary one will get vexed wit girls and i am also in the same position and he said that not to call me then any one reply me
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reader, Amanda mandy  +, writes (18 January 2011):
You should try and talk to your boy friend, and explain to him how you feel,and express your love to him, and tell him its best if he becomes honest on wherethr he wants to be with you or not, if not ,you simply move on, go out, be with friendz, meet new peaple, be happy, study, his not the one for you, and just let go... I hope i helped
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2010): Dear Poster,
10 months is not that long and if you think maybe he is getting bored of you you don't want to be to pushy in the first few months of a relationship. A break from each other is always good maybe your a little insecure and he can feel that men don't like it when women get insecure. If you do find your self calling him again be strong don't flip out if he comes up with an excuse just act cool and act like it dosnt matter because you have other offers anyway.
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reader, ask me!!!  +, writes (13 December 2009):
well here is what you need to do tell him how you are feeling about your relationship and then you need to ask him if he wants to hang out with you one day and if he has another excuse then you need to tell him that he always has an excuse and you wont to move forward with yalls relationship and if he dont then you need to ask him if he really wonts to be with you and if he is getting bored with yalls relationship
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2009): Maybe your partner is doing something behind your back? or maybe he is getting bored. but at the end of the day do you really want someone who gets bored of you after ten months? no chance! RUN!
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reader, tanni  +, writes (28 May 2009):
 hey my boyfriend said that he had expected alot from me but im not upto his expectations... he hd even said sorry for his behavior but i was mad at him so i mailed him a ditch letter....n nw again he has started behaving in a strange way....so dont do anything which make him feel as if ur not giving him space...he will automatically start loosing interest in u....
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reader, Harriet09x  +, writes (1 February 2009):
I'm going through exactly the same thing with my boyfriend at the minute and i understand how you feel - it's horrible. When i ask him about it he just says that it is because he is busy with his mates so he basically doesn't have time to see me anymore. Maybe you should pretend you don't care and act like your not bothered - stop phoning, texting him etc. and if he loves you & he's worth it then he will come runnin to you when he realises what he is missing and that he doesn't want to lose you! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2008): am in a kind of same situatn dude...but my bf told me openly that he got bored......ad i dont kow wata do...i too said sumthing lacking in our relation......but both of us cant end the relation...
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): if i was you darling i would talk to him about how you are feeling. Boys do not pick up on things as quick as girls therefore he probaby thinks he is doing nothing wrong. just explain to him that you feel he is not as interested anymore, if he is the one he will either open up to you or change. it may just be he has something onhis mind such as work issues or family problems the best thing to do in this situation is takl to him.!Good Luck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2008): Maybe you should talk to him about it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2007): Hey, let me tell you something. Maybe he doesn't want to go to your house because there's something that he knows that you dont know. Like my bf, i wont go to his place for a reason, but I still love him like crazy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2007): well,i don't really know how to help you as I am stuck in a similar situation.My boyfriend and I have been together for more than 2 years but he seems to be getting bored of being with me but we do have lots of fun and good memories and i do love him loads.I think sex is the only thing that keeps our relationship going coz everytime he wanted to split up with me, we always make it up with love.May be you can sit down and think about the bad times and good times that occurred in your relationship, if there are more bad than good times,i think it is best to end it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2007): to the person who said that their boyfriend said "think of something that I'd wanna do and be excited to do and then I'll hang out with you" i think it is awful that he said that to you! You should not let him get away with that! i oce had a boyfriend who was a bit like that and eventually the relationship became all about him and had nothing to do with me you should be careful that does not happen to you as that is a really horrible feeling
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2007): Hey, I know exactly what you mean. I really wish I could help you, but I need advice myself. I have a really similar problem and that is that my boyfriend and I have been dating 10 months and we always do the same kinda stuff. I like doing that stuff but he tells me he's bored and Ill spend hours sometimes trying to convince him to hang out and sometimes it works, sometimes it doesnt. I know we love eachother but the boredom factor is crushing in. I dont know if this will help you at all, but my boyfriend once said "think of something that I'd wanna do and be excited to do and then I'll hang out with you" so maybe you could try doing that? I wish this werent so hard :(
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (31 August 2006):
 You need to confront him: that's the only way you will find out what's going on inside his head. Maybe he is getting bored of the relationship, young guys often do after a while, so don't let him lead you on anymore. Tell him if he doesn't make more of an effort, it's over.
I know you don't want to lose him but he's not making you happy is he? He obviously doesn't want to see you, you need to get rid of him and find someone who cares enough to want to see you every hour God sends!
Take a stand on this one, honey. Don't let him waste anymore of your time. Tell him to sort himself out or he's gone. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2006): Maybe he is getting bored but maybe he just needs a good talking to.
Sometimes we fall in to bad habits [like not making the effort to travel to the other persons house] but accept constructive criticism and make the necessary changes to get back on track and keep the other person happy.
Don't worry about splitting up or him being bored of you this early on. Have a good talk to him and explain what you feel he is doing wrong, how it makes you feel, and what you want him to do to change.
And remember! Good communication is key to a good relationship!
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reader, Helen1986 +, writes (31 August 2006):
 I think that he is getting bored and to be honest do you really want a boyfriend that treats you like that? I think you should stop calling him for a while he will soon realise that you are no longer chasing him and I guarantee that he will then start calling you. Play a little hard to get hunny, blokes don't always like it when its easy. They enjoy a challenge, so when he realises that you are not as in to him as he thought the tables will turn and he will be the one chasing you. Honestly it will work but you have to be patient and very strong. write down his phone number and give it to a friend to hide from you then delete his number from your phone so you cant phone him or txt him when you feel tempted. Then just wait and he will call you, I promise
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