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writes: I'm in love with this man, we have been going out for a year, He left to Michigan for a month to go visit his grandma. Plus on top of that it was our year anniversity at the same time. I had a day planned for us when he came back home, and then when he came back and he told me that he was going to move back in with his mom to finish school(which is good). But the way he did it broke my heart, he just came home at 3 am, and left at 8 am, and just said "later". I tryed contacting him after that, and then he said "Let's consider it over" I cryed so hard that night. Even after that I still contacted him to try to work things out. He's my 3rd boyfriend, but my first love. love is blinding, because now he just wants to be friends with "benifits", he says he cares about me, but would'nt he be back with me, and not just friends with "benifits"? There's a couple of girls at his high school that might like him, and his best friend does'nt help either ( he's a nut),plus on top of that he says that his mom does'nt like me for some odd reason, and that she does'nt need to know that we're still talking to eachother...Can someone please give me some advise about what I should do or say???
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reader, whateverblah2005  +, writes (5 September 2009):
sounds like you are dating a player, why be with a guy who only uses you for your body and totally ignores your feelings um?? i can guarantee you that once you broke off with the guy and totally not talk to him at all, within three months he will be coming back begging....and when that happens, SAY NO!!!! you got to love and respect yourself before you expect others to love and respect you
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2008): Do not be friends with benefits with this guy....You are both not on the same "playing level". Sure Friends with benefits tend to be a pure sexual thing! but thats not what you want, by the sounds of it you want a RELATIONSHIP. If you want a friends with benefits relationship you want it with a decent guy anyway. I have a friend with benefits and it works for us but thats only because we stick to our rules but not only that we have a deep respect for each other. This guy that you are or was in love with sounds like a jerk...its not good also to be friends with benefits with someone you have already been in a full term relationship by the way because you have the past and you really cant start fresh.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2007): ok soo i went out with him for a few weeks and he dumped me and than like a few weeks later he asked me to be friends with benifts and i asked him if he was going to just use me he said no he still likes me umm what do i do say but everyday i walk to school and hes there he never talks to me he just likes at me ummmmmmm help me what do i say do feel i need some help here and i reallly do still like him and he has a gf now and i asked if he wanted to hang out with me he said no cuz he does not want to cheat on her and i never really said anything but just hang out helpp me please
help neeeded
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2006): so you see were two difrent people with two difrent lives but the same problems,
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2006): Well this guy wants to be friends with benifts and that is fine with me but when we finally get to it he say's no. he was supposed to stay the night but he only left after a couple of hours. I already told him that I won't push him into a relationship. He say's he likes me but does he really? what should I do? I aleady told him that we can jus be friends because this is getting awkward and now he won't talk to me is he mad at me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2006): grow up and open your eyes.
there r millions of men in this world........do you really think he is the only one for you??????
but my god it is all around you, people break up, divorce, cheat, and get hurt all the time.
stop being so sensitive. stop crying.wake up,,,and just let it go;-)you can make it,,, i did.
have fun..........thats the most important thing in life....
i personaly think he is an idiot,,,and if it makes you feel better,,,,scream at him yes,,,,and if his mother doesn't like you,,,tell her to fuck off too.
my god.
as if you wanna be friends with benefits,,,,scare the shit out of him and tie him with hand cuffs somewhere and whip him hard with a horse whip;-)
he deserves it.
miaw.
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2006): grow up and open your eyes.
there r millions of men in this world........do you really think he is the only one for you??????
but my god it is all around you, people break up, divorce, cheat, and get hurt all the time.
stop being so sensitive. stop crying.wake up,,,and just let it go;-)you can make it,,, i did.
have fun..........thats the most important thing in life....
i personaly think he is an idiot,,,and if it makes you feel better,,,,scream at him yes,,,,and if his mother doesn't like you,,,tell her to fuck off too.
my god.
as if you wanna be friends with benefits,,,,scare the shit out of him and tie him with hand cuffs somewhere and whip him hard with a horse whip;-)
he deserves it.
miaw.
xx
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reader, shishy24 +, writes (31 August 2006):
Honey hes just not into you. Hes young and not ready for a relationship. Move on
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reader, Helen1986  +, writes (31 August 2006):
 He is young and wants other things than you do. He has just moved and there is a new city with a new lot of girls to explore. He is not mature enough for an adult relationship, but at least he is being honest with you. He could have still kept a relationship going with you but led a double life. I think that it will be hard but move on hunny, he is your first love and there will be more. The good thing is he has moved away, so you dont have to bump into him all the time. Cut all ties with this bloke it will be easier for you to get over him that way. It will be hard but it will be easier in the long run. Take care hunny and look after yourself.
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