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writes: Okay, this is SO embarrassing but I don't know who else to turn to and the people on this site seem fairly nice. If you're gonna' be a douche, okay, I guess. It is the Internet, but please...I've been FREAKING out about this since it happened, which was actually a while ago although I've done other things that probably didn't help solve the problem since. So one time I was masturbating and just enjoying myself when I realized I was kinda horny and then somehow I managed to fit my entire hand inside of me. It freaked me out so bad especially since now I feel really, really loose.Other than this I am a virgin. I've never had sex, only experimented with my own body. But I've been crying my eyes out over this, especially recently since I started thinking about how when I get older I will remember having done this. I can just imagine the look on a future boyfriend's face if I ever admitted to this (not that I plan on it; just saying). Not only that, but I know it's very possible for a guy to be able to tell if a girl is a virgin or loose or whatever.I know this is petty, but I feel TERRIBLE. Like I'm ruined and loose, and the idea that people actually "fist" as a fetish makes me sick. But it feels so terrible! Is this permanent? I'm so freaked out about it I'm tempted to consult a doctor. I've been doing Kegels constantly but now I've heard those don't even work? I think I've ruined my genitals forever and I'm not even 16 yet!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2011): Thank you for the responses, and to anyone who thinks this is a joke, then whatever. I'm still contemplating on seeing a doctor to be sure I didn't hurt myself and if I look as normal as most other 15-year-olds down there. I've been doing a bit of research and apparently most girls, if relaxed and aroused enough, would be able to accommodate a relatively small hand? I might be a virgin but I've been masturbating for a while. My hands are pretty bony so I think that had something to do with it. Also, it seems like some girls are just genetically larger down there than others? I think I'll be okay, but thanks again.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (10 March 2011):
 I question if this is a real post. At 13-15 and a virgin, you fit your whole hand up your vagina? How could you not be in pain?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2011): Dry your eyes and stop stressing out about this. Like the other posters mentioned, you haven't ruined yourself. The vagina stretches naturally.
I've personally never been able to fit anything close to hand size in my vagina, but I have huge man-sized hands. Anyway, I've been told by more than one partner that I am too tight. My fiancé especially, has complained that I've hurt him during intercourse. Over time, I've stretched a bit, but after as little as two weeks without having intercourse, my vagina has tightened to the point that sex hurts him.
Two specific things that I've noticed contribute to how tight my vagina feels to him. If I masturbate to orgasm without penetration, (clitoral stimulation only) it causes the muscles in the pelvic area and the walls of the vagina to tighten. Over time, exercising these muscles this way will make them become stronger and you will feel tighter.
The second thing that will help you is strengthening your core...your abdominal muscles. Start doing sit-ups and crunches. Additionally, focus on your posture. When you stand, stand tall, shoulders back, tensing your abs slightly to support yourself. When you walk or run, focus on your posture and hold your stomach in by tensing your abs. In time, this strengthens and builds muscles that are used during sexual intercourse...if you do these 2 things regularly, you will feel much tighter in as little as two weeks. :-)
Finally, kegels haven't done anything for me either which is why I decided to reply with what I know DOES. :-)
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 March 2011):
 nothing broken.... nothing ruined.
I mean think about the size of a baby...
it's a muscle it will stretch...
relax.
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (10 March 2011):
 Wow. Calm down.
Kegels do work, as a 21 yr old mother of two I can attest that they do work. Abstinence from sex/masturbation should also help as long as you stick to the plan of not doing anything sexually.
We woman are designed for a baby's head to pass through our vaginal canals and while women who fist as a fetish every day to every other day won't maintain the elasticity of their vaginas, you can. The vagina is made to stretch.
Do kegels. Pelvic floor exercises and you'll be okay. If you want to ask a doctor about it, go for it, it's nothing they haven't seen or heard of before and they will be professional with you about it.
GOod luck to you sweetie, you'll be fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2011): Every woman is different in regards to size and how much their vagina will stretch when sexually excited. Unless you were bleeding severly, or were in a lot of pain I don't think you need to see your doctor or that you have in any way damaged your genitals. Although if it would put your mind at ease there's no harm in doing so either.
Just try to be comfortable about your own body and consider that there are other women who don't stretch or get very wet at all and sex for them can be very painful all throughout their lives. So be grateful for what you have.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2011): First things first, you have not ruined yourself. Masturbation is entirely normal, everybody does it.You say you feel "really loose", but that surprises me, unless you were extraordinarly rough on yourself. Slackening of the vaginal muscles usually only happens as a result of childbirth. There are exercises for building them, however, I am not a medically qualified person, so I cannot advise you.Are you in any pain as a result of what you did? Either way, I would consult a doctor.Posting on sites such as this will not necessarily provide you with the answers you need, unless someone medically qualified chooses to answer you, but you HAVE NO WAY of verifying that they are medically qualified.Speak to your doctor. Your consultation will remain confidential.
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