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writes:So my gf and I have been dating for just over 2 months. We recently moved in together and things have gotten bad. It seems as if everyday I do atleast 1 thing wrong, most days it's several things. It's almost as if she looks for things to complain about! I've felt like a roommate versus someone she loves for the last 2 weeks. We don't touch, kiss or sleep together. Please help, I think I've lost her and I don't have a clue what to do!
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reader, Herbabygirl +, writes (27 August 2013):
Herbabygirl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your replies! The reasons in which I'm doing everything are completely ridiculous. Yes I was looking for a place to stay or a roommate and I now feel like that's probably why she offered for me to stay with her. I accepted bc we had spent nearly everyday together so I didn't think there'd be any issues. Since then I feel like I'm walking on thin ice. I want to leave but I feel like she'll think I'm giving up on her... On us! I'm completely lost at this point, there's no physical contact unless I inniate it and it's only 1 sided. I sleep alone in the bed we used to share. It's my first same sex relationship and her 5th or 6th. I thought for sure if It was too soon she wouldn't have asked maybe I was wrong there as well.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (27 August 2013):
 Two months! OP, you don't know each other. I'm not beating you up, only today a friend told me that her and her hubby moved in together after only 3-4 months, but I believe they're the exception rather than the rule.
This situation is causing you distress. Sit down and have a heart to heart with your girlfriend and work out whether this is teething pains or really the beginning of the end.
Wishing you well.
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reader, Got Issues +, writes (27 August 2013):
 Two months and you're already living together? It's no wonder you're not getting along. You barely know each other, at least not as partners, and so you have no solid base together which will help you get over the annoying things people invariably notice about their partner when they move in together.
I think you just have to accept that this is not going to work. One of you needs to move out. You can either break up, or one of you moves out and you try to go back to just dating. This has all happened way too quickly.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (27 August 2013):
Well, you moved in with her after a couple of months dating, this is the result. It's obviously not working so move out and start working on your relationship.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (27 August 2013):
 moving in together after a mere two months sounds rushed.
did either of you need a place to go so you ended up as the default settings?
if you are unhappy I'd move out and then find out what the issue is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2013): Are the things she complains about legitimate? Like, are you being inconsiderate as a roommate sharing the living spaces?
Or are they more of her wanting her way on everything as a matter of preference?
If you're really doing things "wrong " which hurt her then of course she will complain.
If you're not but shes just being entitled and controlling then move out.
You have to decide for yourself which category the specific issues fall into
Could it be that her complaints are legitimate but the way she says it is not? If so then tell her you would be willing to listen and make changes if she weren't being such a jerk about it.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (27 August 2013):
 Move out, look at her only in your rear-view mirror, and chalk this up to one of those unpleasant life experiences which makes us tougher, in the future.... Sorry.
Good luck....
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