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writes:Dear CupidMy bf (of 3 yrs) and myself were having probs lately as i have some financial issues and was struggling and i asked him to lend some moeny and told him ill pay it back in 2 months max.Brief background, i gave my bf money and he still hasnt retruned it back.I never even brought up the money part during all this time.Even yesterday i asked him whether i could borrow some money from him and thats when he last talked to me, he is not picking up my call, he is staying with his friends place now.I feel so ashamed and disgusted for being me. What should i do now. Please help me
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (27 August 2013):
 Once my husband and I were a committed couple there was no "borrowing" of funds... his money was mine an mine was his..
I needed something we got it..
if you owe him and he owes you.. then either you owe him more or he owes you more and one loan (the lesser amount) cancels out the other loan... only the difference is due.
and then consider ending the relationship... money is usually the biggest problem in most relationships.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2013): So , let me make it more clearer. You borrowed money from your boyfriend recently, and you are having problems paying him back, correct? But... In a past he borrowed money from you Nd didn't pay you back. Now , you were trying to borrow more money from him, and he left.
You need to remind him of his debt first, and pay him the difference. But frankly, I am with my boyfriend for 2 years, and when I needed rent money one month, he just gave it to me. It calls helping each other out.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (27 August 2013):
 How big of an amount was it? And yes, I would track him down and tell him, dude we need to sit down and work out a payment plan, so you can pay me back what you owe me.
This is something YOU should have done when loaning him the money.
Don't let this go. though, you might accept that you lost that money and that you have an ass for a bf (or ex-bf).
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