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36-40,
anonymous
writes:About 9 months ago me and my boyfriend had a major fight as he lied about where he was one night, following it we both went on a night out with friends but seperately, and met up later, when we met up I caught him on the phone planning to meet up and have sex with another girl. We split up for a few months and decided to give it another go in June, and decided to do things properly and moved in together. Due to money problems and such he hasn't really been on a proper lads night out to the same place since, he spent a weekend away and I was absolutley fine, but he is about to go out tonight to exactly the same set of places he went when he did that to me. I don't feel like he is going to cheat, and I do trust him on this night out 100 percent in fact I trust him a thousand, a lot has changed since all that went on. but it has made me feel all I can describe as as funny,. Is this normal?
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (29 November 2008):
 I do think it is normal to be feeling a bit insecure about what will happen. However, in love you need to trust. So let him go and expect the best (that he will behave). In time, he will earn back your trust. And if he violates that trust again you have to think about the consequences. But you need to give him these chances to prove himself. You need to believe in him.
I am guessing he will earn back your trust completely.
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reader, RonMexico  +, writes (29 November 2008):
 Yes, this is normal. It is human nature to be concerned and protective. It's not that you don't trust him... it's that you don't trust other girls. The fact is he is putting himself at risk of cheating every time he goes out, so of course you will be concerned. If he doesn't go out, he doesn't cheat, and you get used to that safety.
Anyways I'm not saying anything will happen or that he will cheat, jsut that it is NORMAL to feel that way.
Cheers,
Ron Mexico
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