I think I'm starting to be a burden on him. Am I taking things too fast?

A female age 51-59, anonymous writes:

i am a 38 year old women. i met this guy close to 3 months ago, and we are somewhat still together. in the beginning we would talk on the phone from 11pm all the way until 3 or 4 oclock in the morning. we both work long hours so in a way it is hard for us to really see each other in the early evening. in the beginning he would take me out to dinner, romantic places. im sort of like a laid back individual. i like to watch movies at home cuddle and so fourth. well we notice that we have alot in common. we are also the same signs which are capricorns. we have alot of similar ways. anyway i broke up with this wonderful man a year ago. since then i havent given any man the time a day except for the one im with now. in a way he is kind of hard to understand. he has funny ways about him or maybe its me. anyway he tells me that he was in a 5 year relationship and they broke up almost 2 years ago. he told me that he was living with her and and he got an offer to marry an immigrant for $5000. he did it but the women he was staying with knew about it. in the beginning she went along with it. they were going to get married so he was waiting to get divorce papers from the immigrant so that him and his then current girlfriend can get married. then papers didnt go through fast enough so she broke up with him or whatever the situation may have been. when we do have little conversations about our past he act like he is still kind of scared behind it. when i broke up with my ex i greived for almost a year but im just starting to get over it because i now have my current boyfriend in my life. i really do like him but he told me that he wants to take things slow. but why should i? i mean i guess im still cross in between my old relationship. im looking for the same qualities in my boyfriend that are similar to my ex and he is noway like my ex. his ways are diffrent. my ex really cared for me. he took care of me and my 2 girls. i know he wants to take things slow. i think im starting to be a burden on him. im always calling him. he calls me too but not like i do. i never really give him a chance. do you think im taking things too fast?

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