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writes: i think im ready to lose my virginity with my bf but im scared that it wont fit in beacuse i mite get stressed or something, is there anything i could do to help? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell i did think about it..and i wasnt ready....to be honest i have just recently started coming on here again and come across this question i had posted in and i was thinking hard as i cant remember what bf i was talking about losing my virginity to lmao...so it cant have been special or anything...well just as an update i had a few relationships since then and i am now in a steady relationship and have been with him for over 7 months now...i lost my virginity to him 2 weeks ago and i had no problems getting it in...i was totaly relaxed and it didnt hurt at all...im glad a waited a little longer. every one that answered my question thanks a lot for your advice, it helped me make the right decision xxx
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (11 February 2007):
Well, first off. If your relaxed and ready at the time you shouldnt have any problem. RELAXED and READY. Dont do it before. Are you sure your boyfriend is the one you want to do it with.
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reader, Dr. John  +, writes (11 February 2007):
 Time and time again I hear women express their regrets at not having waited to have sex. Many have expressed regret at not having waited till they got married.
This is something you should first take a good hard look at. There is certainly nothing wrong with keeping your virginity dear to you.
My daughter is nearly 22 and is still a virgin even though she has been going with a guy for more than a year.
He has pressured her in the past because he was used to getting it from his previous gf.
He and I had words over this and he agreed to back off since this was, I'm happy to say, her decision. (Plus the fact he knows I would kill him.)
In any case, however, to answer your question from a purely medical standpoint, just get yourself some KY jelly or some other water soluable personal lubricant and this should facilitate things.
You would not want to use a petrolium based lubricant as this would cause you problems.
I wish you good health and hope you make the correct choice for yourself. Doc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2007): Well i lost my virginity on thurs so it's fresh in my mind!I was so scared!!! It took me ages to lose like all my mates did ages ago and i thought it would hurt loads and that but it really didn't. I kinda regret losing it to some randomer and now wish i waited for someone i actualy liked!! Go 4 it!! It will be fine...
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reader, [Angel_Eyes] +, writes (11 February 2007):
Firstly, saying you think your ready isnt positive hun. Think about it a lot. Maybe start by taking things 1 step at a time. Dont forget to be safe. x
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reader, AskEve +, writes (10 February 2007):
 Just by reading your letter love, I can answer you in three words... YOU'RE NOT READY!
Eve
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reader, vina_101 +, writes (10 February 2007):
 How big is your boyfriend? Have you seen it? Lubrication will make penetration a lot easier. But if you think you'll get stressed about it and also if you have to come on the internet to ask then I don't think you're completely ready for sex. To stop the stress then maybe you should spend more time with your boyfriend and take things slow, do little things one at a time and let things slowly progress. Soon you will not be worried about having sex with him because you will be a lot more comfortable.
And also it helps if you both know what you're doing, maybe buy a magazine with some sex tips and make sure you know all there is to know about contraception and STI prevention. Or if you're feeling lazy you could always ask the agony aunts right here on Dear Cupid. :) Once you know what you're doing and you are fully educated then you won't be worried about a thing and you'll be a lot more relaxed.
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