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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I really love this guy. He was my first love. He was the first relationship I ever had and it bothers that he had about relationships before that he keeps bringing up. The two that come up the most are the ones that dumped him. One girl dumn him and never spoke to him because she didnt think he was fighting for the relationship. Another is a certified hoe, everyone knows she slept with everyone on his job. He knows too. But he sees her as a saint. I have prove of this. He told me. He is not in love with them but he has "love for them." I honestly don't want to be with him. If he is loving anyone else. It just annoys me that he keeps bring that crap up. The way things are looking I'm going to end up hating him. I already resent him a lot. I am VERY attached to him and I hate it, I can't sleep with out sleep without him, I miss him to much, I always call him, I can't stand it when he is upset with me. I can't cope. Is like my life revolves around him now and what makes me really upset is that I don't feel he pays as much attention as he used to to me. I want to deattached my self from him but I can't I don't know how to. I tried and nothing works And is getting worse. I don't even want to hang with friends or family if not with him I just want to be alone. Is a terrible feeling this isn't how I used to be. And I don't want to cut off all communication even thought I know is what's best for me in the long run. I think things will better in the long run. But I just don't know. How can I stop this attachment I have to him? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (6 December 2009):
Thing will be better in the long run? You're deceiving yourself. How many people have thought that in the past an then been hurt? The figure runs into millions. Please face the fact that he is still fascinated by his ex's, and just isn't into you enough. If he was, his ex's wouldn't come into any conversation. You have a choice, either leave him now and cut contact, or continue dreaming that it will get better and end up being really hurt further down the line. He isn't just going to magically get over them or suddenly get better. He isn't over them. So cut contact, end of. Or join the list of all those other hurt men and women who have wrongly believed it will get better. You don't even really love him. You're with him out of fear of being alone.
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