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writes:I think i'm fallin for my best mate. He is soooo cute and treats girls like gold but i am terrrified he'd freak and cut all contact with me, we've been in the same friendship group since early high school and i kinda dated 2 of his close friends, 1 pretty seriously, so i think he might have some hang ups bout that, i haven't told him his mate broke me in. Do i continue being his friend and hope these feelings will pass ( it could just be lonelyness) or do i risk our friendship and tell him ?Really need help as my mates are useless and can't see him as anything but a friend, am sooo confusedThank you bucketsCutie Pie xxxxxXXXxxxxx Reply to this Question
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reader, Newtzy  +, writes (28 April 2007):
 I was in your situation once, I was going out with someone for two years, and his best friend was very into me (i found this out after i got with his friend) We formed the best of friendships and stayed friends when my relationship broke up and i got into another one. We were best friends. then one day i realised i was madly in love with him - i told him and we ended up sleeping together on a few occasions, Then he didnt want to be with me - and the friendship has never been the same since. If i could give you one piece of advice it would be to keep your friendship as if you get together and it doesnt work out your friendship may suffer.
On the other hand you may date and it may go extremely well, or you may break up and remain the closet of friends. But either way it is going to be a risk. If you do tell him how you feel i hope it goes well for you both.
Let me know what you do.
Kate x
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reader, Girl Pants  +, writes (28 April 2007):
 We're in the same boat.
I met my best friend when i was 5 years old and now i'm 19 and he's 21. I started to fall for him when i was at your age too. Like you, i'm totally scared that he will not talk to me anymore if i tell him about my feelings. He treats me really well and i always have the thought that he likes me too. I did not confess my feelings to him. cos i thought the feelings would pass. But it didn't.
Until last year, we were at the beach together and he said he had something very important to tell me. He said he liked me since high school. And there, i too told him about my feelings. And we're still together now.
You may wanna try confess you feelings towards him, maybe face to face, thru a letter or anything. But i advise you not to hurry and think about it well. Just give yourself more time to sort out your feelings.
Cheers!
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