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writes:Ok so here's the problem...after a long time of thinking i have decided that i want to break up with my boyfriend.Because i get so nervous talking to him about serious things (which leaves me forgetting what i was meant to say) i decided it was best to write everything i wanted to say to him down, sit him downa dn give it to him.But i need some advice in trying to express myself. The reasons i want to break up with him is :A) I'm not happy (which i shouldnt say during a breakup...makes things worse with him thinking its him)B) I no longer care about him the way i use to...i do care about him..but not in that way.C) Because i'm 19 and he's 35 i have a lot of self discovery to do,,,and i'm trying to get ascross that i'd have to do this alone...Any help would be awesome!Joe
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009): well at least he didnt take it to bad like beating u or some thing but u shotld take a little time to see if this is wat u really want good luck
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reader, Joe158 +, writes (22 July 2009):
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So i finally got the courage today to say something...and it got a bit...erm...messy. Not bad messy...but just messier than i'd like.
So after an awkward 30 mins it ended with me saying i care about you, but my feelings have changed...and he said then i guess you'd better go home. So i went home...relieved that it was over and i didn't have to think about it...
I get home and suddenly he calls me saying he wants to talk and explain the way he's been acting....
So i got back, and he started talking about why he's not wanted sex and blah blah blah...because of the drugs he's taken...which is fine...that's not his fault...then he starts getting all sad on me and started saying stuff like "it's not like there are a bunch of people lined up for me"...i replied i'm sure there is..you haven't really been looking.
It somehow ended with me taking a few days to figure out what i really want....i was a bit annoyed since i just wanted to rip the plaster off and not slowly peel it off.
Any thoughts?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009): you should just tell him how u feel and that u need more time to explore ur self (not in a nasty way) and the world i wish u luck
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reader, holly123 +, writes (22 July 2009):
hey,
this is tricky, first make sure this is what you realy want and i mean really, no regrets afterwards. Then if you are living with him or something arrange a place to stay and just general things to make it easier so he doesnt have to be around you more than he has to, it might just hurt his feelings even more. Then just simply sit him down tell him or give him the letter and just say "everything is arranged for me to leave, i need some space etc" then take it from there.
sorry your relationship wasnt working, hope everything goes well. xx
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