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writes:I need help. I'm so confused that I don't know what to do. I've been with my boyfriend for about three years, we've been through the mill and back. Lately...I just haven't been feeling him. I respect him very much, he is a really good guy, but I don't know if I can handle him the rest of my life. We live together, have been for about a year. But he doesn't really do anything wrong...he just fools around and like, blows in my ear or tickles me or wrestles around with me and I think it's really immature, and I don't like it sometimes. And then he kind of makes fun of me jokingly, like he says something (sometimes mean or whateveR) and then is like im just kidding!! And it gets to me. I've talked to him about it before but I'm not sure it got through. I don't think I have the strength to break up with him but it has been on my mind for a good while. It's just that I do NOT like to make decisions where I know there may be a chance that I regret it. I never do it. So I'm really torn right now. I don't know if its just a phase, or whatever because we have been together for a while...but I find my mind wandering into what it would be like if I weren't with him. And its killing me, because I really do love him. And he loves me, for exactly who I am...he's not jealous, he treats me well, takes care of me...but I dunno. HELP!
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reader, Ted-ster  +, writes (7 June 2009):
I think he might break up with you, frankly. Lighten up and enjoy life. However, you may not be that into him if you don't like him being playful with you? Only you can answer that question. It's normal to have doubts, and no one person really meets all your needs, and should not be expected to. However, you need to get over yourself. If this guy is for you, and you really do love him, then appreciate him, and make your life happy (... some people are determined to make their lives unhappy, and gravitate towards misery and drama.) All relationships require WORK and POSITIVE ENERGY. The grass is always greener on the side that is watered, meaning, of course, the side that's taken cared of and attended to will be the better, healthier side. My sage advice is to attend and take care of your man. He does sound like a good guy. Otherwise, he'll start looking for someone with a better watering can than you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2009): this is normal!
i wouldnt break up with him, he sounds a great guy :)
just spend a few weeks apart and a few days every week.xx
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