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writes:I started dating my guy friend of two years a couple weeks ago. On Saturday we were at his house alone and fooled around a bit (i gave him a hand job and he fingered me). It was completely my choice as he was adamant that I only do things I'm comfortable with and that he thinks pressuring girls into doing things is very wrong. But now after the fact I'm thinking maybe it happened too fast. We had talked a bit the next day about it and he said that he kind of had just wanted to hang out with me, but that was fun too just he likes the way I am when were hanging out without fooling around better sometimes. I asked my friend about this and she said it seemed to her that it was far too fast, and that I had made a mistake..she believes that he cares about me a lot (which he does) but that he will eventually lose respect for me if I don't respect myself more and if I keep this up he'll break up with me. I'm starting to think she's right....so how do I make this right? I talked to him about it a bit yesterday explaining that I kind of got caught up in the moment and that I normally don't do that kind of thing and he said he knew and said he didn't think I was easy or anything, that he had dated girls who went much further much faster so he didn't judge me for it or anything, but what do you think I should do? should I tell him we should slow down or suggest we don't do anything for a while?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 October 2011):
 If you think YOU moved to fast, then slow down. Let the guy know that you are interested, but that you need to take things slow. If he is worth a darn he will agree and understand (no matter how horny you both are).
It is hard with all the hormones, curiosity and excitement from the attention and new feelings. But trust me.. taking it slow isn't going to make it any less so.
IF it is hard for you to take it slower, then stay in public as much as possible.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 October 2011):
 Don't listen to your friend. Listen to yourself and nobody else. If you feel comfortable doing this sort of thing well then it is nobody's business but yours. You have been friends with this guy and knowing him for a long time. He sounds like a decent guy who respects you which is great. If you personally feel that you are uncomfortable with it moving so fast well then just tell him you would like to wait a while before fooling around like this again. But make sure it is what you are wanting and not what your friends are telling you. He won't lose interest because you have both fooled around, or dump you for that matter. He has reassured you he does not find you easy and you have explained that you don't fool around with just anyone so just do whatever you feel like doing and what you want.
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