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writes:Hey guys. My name is Gemma and I am 18 years old. At the minute I am worrying about whether I could be pregnant or not and I don't know what to do. Me and my Boyfriend would love to have a child together and feel ready and committed to have a child now but the only thing I am worried about is what people will say and also how my family will react. Can anyone help me please??xxxx
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (7 July 2007):
 I'm sorry to hear about your dad sweetie. Your boyfriend would have to get a job. I am unemployed and can't find anyone who will take me on. I go for interviews and because my bump is so big, even if I wear something baggy you can see it, they obviously don't want me there. Although somebody can't turn round and say they aren't employing you due to pregnancy.
I wouldn't worry until you know for sure. I am having to sign on. I don't like the idea of being on the dole but I need money to support my child. My partner is working full time.
Get yourself tested then panic over money and your mum.
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reader, am i alone? +, writes (6 July 2007):
am i alone? is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you for the advise:D:D well my dad died in 2003 and ever since then my mum has been so angry towards me and just me,she treats my two brothers who r younger,they are 17 and 12,like princes!!she has the most evil boyfriend EVER and when he is around all she does is shout at me or hit me so what if i am pregnant and i brake it to her and she goes mad??i know if my dad was alive he would be the to support me 110%!! also if i am pregnant there is a thing called money that i dont exactally have enough of and my boyfriend is trying to think of things he can do:S help!xxxxx
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reader, LauraE +, writes (6 July 2007):
I agree with yummy mummy. No point agonising about this until you know for sure. Then, if you are pregnant, break it to your parents together. It doesn't matter what others think, but I suspect that they will be fine with it. Having a child is a huge change. In the face of that, what other people think isn't worth a second's consideration.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (6 July 2007):
 I was 18 when i fell pregnant with my little man, at the time we had only just got back together after having split up for a few months so i was really worried about telling my parents.
We went round there together and just sat them down and told them, and they were shocked but pleased at the same time, we got the usual where are you going to live, can you afford to do this right now, but we assured them that we would sort everything out and they were cool with it.
As long as you stick together through all of it 'if you find out you are' then people have no reason to say anything bad about it.
Take care.xx.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (6 July 2007):
Heya Gemma :)
The only thing I can really suggest before panicking and worrying yourself sick is get a home test kit or go see your doctor asap. No point in worrying what others will think till you know for sure, right. I make it sound so easy but I was in your shoes a few months back and am currently 5 months pregnant.
What other people think shouldn't matter if it is what you and your partner want. Your families will matter but they should be ok once they have gotten over the shock. I thought my parents would go mad. I'm 21 and was going to uni in Sept. Plus when my sister was pregnant last year her and my dad fell out big time. But they were both fine with it. A bit concerned but that's what parents are for right.
Get yourself to your doctor and get tested :) It's free :D lol Or it is at my surgery anyway :)
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (6 July 2007):
 I assume you're not married to Boyfriend, or you wouldn't worry about your family's reaction.
I say, whatever their reaction of what people think, if you want to have family, well, do. It's time you make your own decisions.
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