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writes:I think I might be pregnant but I don't want to say anything to my boyfriend before I know it's true. My boyfriend is 21 and im 17 and I'm on birth control but I accidentally missed 3 pills in a row. My boyfriends cums inside me but I thought that if I caught up with my cycle I would be fine. But I started spotting. I caught up with my pills but something just doesn't feel right. I keep feeling nauseous and the scent of food gives me a headache and I automatically lose my appetite. My period isn't due for another 2 weeks but I'm super nervous! Should I tell my boyfriend? We're very close and open with each other and I hate keeping things from him but I also don't want to say something if I'm not even pregnant. Please help me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2014): No, don't tell him. Buy a home pregnancy test and go from there. Missing pills will make you spot, but you still need to do the home pregnancy test.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2014): No don't tell him. The only reason to tell him is if you need his support, if so then go ahead.
If you can handle this on your own until you're sure then there's no need for him to worry too.
Go to a family planning clinic and ask them for help, at least get the ball rolling before you tell him.
OP you don't have to go through this alone, if he's the only one you can get support from and you feel you need that then don't feel guilty about telling him, in that case I'd definitely want to know.
If you're fine dealing with this alone or have someone else you can get support from then wait until you know.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (28 August 2014):
 Buy a test, wait the two weeks and then tested. And I think BEFORE you tell your BF, you need to tell your mom. If the test shows positive. If he shows negative, talk to your doctor.
The reason you feel crappy CAN also be because you missed these 3 days of pills.NOT taking 3 pills can mess with the "artificial" cycle.
Also, if you "accidentally" missed 3 pills WHY on Earth did you two not use condoms or abstain?
NO more sex till you know if you are pregnant or not. Because if you are NOT pregnant and you ovulate and have sex... well then you MIGHT be pregnant for sure.
By the way, how did you "catch" up with the missed pills?
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reader, SeaGreen  +, writes (28 August 2014):
 If you think you are pregnant you need to stop taking the birth control pills immediately. That means no unprotected sex until you find out for sure. You will have to use a condom. If you find out your not pregnant then start taking them again but continue to use a condom for a month because the pills will take that long to be effective again. Even missing a pill once can effect your chances of getting pregnant! While a lot of people will agree waiting to see if you are pregnant is better then to tell your boyfriend now I have to disagree. The baby wasn't planned and you both need to step-up and realize that your playing with fire. Pills and condoms are not 100% effective even when taken strictly!! He needs to know that there is a scare and prepare for it! Whether that is to become a Dad or to practice safer sex so it doesn't happen!
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (28 August 2014):
 Yes tell him, if he might be the father he probably wants to know how to plan his future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2014): Buy a test, the only way to be at least 99.9% sure!
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reader, Behavioural Analysis  +, writes (28 August 2014):
 You were pretty reckless and you need to be as mature as you can and see a doctor, just to get a complete sexual health check up (did you and your boyfriend get STD checked and show the results to each other before sex?). When did you have sex? Tell him you're worried about it and would like him to go to the doctor with you.
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (28 August 2014):
 wait for two weeks to see if you start, if not by then you need to tell him. he is an adult and needs to man up and take responsibility.
why wait two weeks because you are still early, you may just be sick, have a bug ect.. plus the first thing that come's to your mind is pregnant. why is that, because you are having sex and realize in the back of your mind it could happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2014): I have gone through this exact same scare and it turned out to be a false alarm. I had told my boyfriend and it had gotten him very nervous and over worked and after we found out that it was nothing we were wary about having sex and it made it less enjoyable. I would recommend going to a local planned parenthood (they will not get in touch with parents or anything like that) or buying a pregnancy test and finding out for yourself before informing him.
Hope all works out for the best.
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