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writes:I dont know who I am or what I want. For years I tried to push the gay thoughts and desires from my head. Eventually I decided I was at least bisexual, if not gay. Now, however, it isnt the labeling that bothers me. I want to try having a relationship with another guy, but I dont know how. After so many years of denying this part of me, every time I've tried to meet a guy I end up backing out. The most I've done with another guy is chat or skype online. Nothing ever in real life with a guy. I think part of it is that I'm conservative. The only girl Ive been with was a girlfriend. I dont know if I could have a one night thing. That makes things slightly complicated considering no one knows I also like guys.Any and all advice would be appreciated. How can I get over my fears and accept an invitation, or ask a guy out? Reply to this Question
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reader, gaydating +, writes (30 June 2011):
hey, well, 1st of all dont do night stands/hookups you are going to regret it. Take things slow...try gay dating sites, start talking to guys and once you feel comfortable, you can meet each other in person, then go from there. DOnt try to rush things. Also, I think is a good idea to try a relationship with a guy, because that way you will know what you really want. But when you have something with a guy, let them know the situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2011): im not advertising it's just a suggestion but there's an awesome site called www.thegyc.com :) that might help you meet nice people :) not neccessarily for dates but just people that are like you and have the same interests and have been through similar things :)
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (28 June 2011):
 You CAN sign up to various gay dating sights but I think you'll find they are more for hooking up than anything... UNLESS you explicitly state in your profile that you are looking for an LTR and NOT hookups.
Like asking out girls, asking out guys is the same. Scary at first, but you'll get over the initial fear eventually... you just have to do it a few zillion times in order to do so. Nothing other than experience solves the problem. Sorry.
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reader, bruce lee  +, writes (28 June 2011):
 I don't think you should ask a guy out or accept a guy's advances in the first place. If you have sex with a guy, you might end up regretting it. And you can't turn back the clock once you've done something like that.
But it's your life and no-one can tell you what to do.
I just think you might be too young to know whether or not you're bisexual.
I hope this helps.
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