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36-40,
*issyd
writes:Basically there was this guy, i liked and i didnt know if he liked me back. I already asked people and got some answers about it which told me to man up and show him that i cared. I was more flirty, and so was he, we spent some great times, (he "spoke" a slam rap he wrote mostly about love, he was following me everywhere, we would hold gaze..)After this i thought he would ask me out. But he didnt. I left him time, still being in touch, he still didnt ask. So i thought he doesnt like me so I decided to stop seeing him, but first i told him how i felt. i told him that " i had a crush on him, that i knew he wasnt feeling this way about me that being friends wasnt enough and that i needed space to move on." He told me he didnt want me out of his life, and that i decided that his answer would be no. I was kinda upset about it so i didnt noticed but as time as gone by i wondered if he liked me and didnt had time to tell me (i didnt really gave him choice). I texted him a few time, he barely respond. Theres some things i remembered when we talked about what we want in the future, (we were in college together back then) me saying that i want a man, who's responsible, with a settled job, so we could raise a child well. But he didnt had his degree and had troubles to figure things out.Today he's on his way of getting his dream job and i wonder is he waiting to achieve this to come back to me? I know he's got a lot of work (from a "friend" we have in common), is this why he doesnt text back? cause he's busy? I know i told him i need some space so is he just listenning to me?Of course i miss him, but im kinda scared to look needy, and i know guys hate that. I dont know what to do.
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reader, missyd +, writes (28 July 2012):
missyd is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the answers. The situation took a turn.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2012): Hi,
I don't want to be cruel either but you shouldn't have assumed he felt a certain way. When you told him how you felt you should simply have asked how he felt about you.
Now the fact that he is not getting back to your messages makes me think he's decided to drop it after your confession.
Take a wait and see attitude, but if I were you I would take this as a learning experience and move on. Don't over-analyse the situation because you will end up feeling worse. Also, next time you meet a guy you like take it slow and don't go all too flirty, be a friend and then make a move on the guy - it's bold but might pay off.
Good luck.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (24 July 2012):
 I am trying not to be cruel here, but he cannot be busy 24 hours a day, so if he really wanted to message you back then he would, it doesn't take someone that long to respond to a text. I understand why you are feeling confused here over his behaviour, you approached him the wrong way you should not have told him you know he would not be interested because men do not like to be told by a girl how they are feeling.
Yes you are right most men and women do not like having a needy partner. So I think you should take some time out, he is not responding so do not message him for a while. Give yourself some space and get your head clear. If he really wants to contact you he will and if he does not contact you then he is not worth all off this.
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