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*lue---Skies
writes:Heyokay well iv always been really really close to this guy, he's my best friend ever and i love him to peices. We always mess about together and he is always there for me and will hold my hand and hug me etc. but now i feel i love him more help ?! Also am i taking advantage of how close we are ?? any advice ? x
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reader, MeowMix86  +, writes (9 August 2007):
 Hello againThat's great to know you aren't messing around the way I thought...so many girls are taken advantage of that way. But he sounds like a good friend and perhaps your friendship is leading up to a relationship. When it comes down to it...its really up to you. Only you can decide when to tell him if at all but I definitely think its worth talking about. If he's a true friend and admits to not feeling the same way, then he'll continue to hang out with you...and you can always say that you felt it was worth mentioning and you didn't want it to affect your friendship. Surely that is more than respectable.And who knows, he could feel exactly the same way and just be unsure of how to ask you. Hes definitely interested if hes spending so much time with you and holding hands, hugging, etc. Life is about taking risks. Those brave enough are often rewarded greatly and you will definitely thank yourself whether or not he shares your feelings.
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reader, Blue---Skies +, writes (8 August 2007):
Blue---Skies is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks, and nah just messing about as friends in town and that.. but im still not sure what to do and weather to risk our friendship for it, because i couldnt bare to loose such a close friend and i love him to peices, but i dont know..
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2007): No it definitely doesn't mean that you're taking advantage of your closeness. Some of the best relationships start with friendship. You and your friend seem like you have a really good realationship, and personally, if it were me, I would tell him how I feel sometime when we were alone. Because life is too short to miss out on hapiness. You are so lucky to have a guy friend like that! All the guys I know have one thing on their mind! So take into account all the things that could happen when you tell him that you like him, but this could be such a great relationship. Good luck sweetie x
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reader, MeowMix86 +, writes (8 August 2007):
Hello
First and formost is your feelings. You feel you are in love with him? Ask yourself why and make sure it's not just because you are lonely and looking for a boyfriend. If you think you love the person he is, then gather lots of courage and ask how he feels. I know its a scary thing to do because you could risk the "friendship" you have now but if you guys are "messing about" the way I think you are then its too late for a normal friendship. If you don't tell him how you feel, he could take advantage of you and you might get your feelings hurt when he finds a girl he wants to be his girlfriend. Take the chance while its available! And if he says he doesn't feel the same way, he wants to remain friends with benefits or whatever, then its up to you what to do next. You can ditch him or put up with him using you, either way you will know for sure how he feels. Be brave, you are doing this for you, and you deserve it.
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