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writes:I can't stop thinking about this guy, seriously 24/7. I think Im in love with him, I don't get the feeling he feels very strongly for me. He blows hot and cold, one minute wanting to see me all the time, then i don't hear anything from him. We have slept together numerous times. Just really want him to want me if you know what i mean Reply to this Question
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reader, Original shiraz! +, writes (6 May 2009):
I do know exactally what you mean but im sorry to say it doesnt always work that way and what hurts the most is youve fallen so deep and from what youve said i dont think hes there yet (or even had the intention of going there)
I usally make excuses for blokes when a questions posted, you know try to see it from all points of view but ive heard this one quite a few times and really what excuse is there for him? hes a guy and he wants some fun :( im sorry it makes you feel such a crappy person and maybe youll continue so see him in hope that his feelings will change, again im sorry but i doubt this. The more you play to his tune the more damage he does to you as a person.And the more control he holds over you, hows that fair? Having your emotions toyed with is enough hurt as it is, but by having the one you actually love and care about doing the toying? its a step too far.
Everyone deserves that respect and to know where they stand, its not a relationship if your staying in one place, especially one your doubting already. You cant give all the love, one heart is not enough, hes not there and i think you should take a step back and stop yourself hurting any more, it doesnt look like hes aware so he'll continue this cycle until somethings done, up to you to stop the hurt he sends your way.
Best of luck, sorry not one bit of this was positive, just honest hun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2009): This guy here seems to be casual about this sort of relation you are having.It would be much better if you ask him straight about what he feels about you.And, mayb the answer could be hurting but then your doubts will be cleared and you can try to forget this "fling" and move on with your life. Mayb a better relation awaits you round the corner :)
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