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writes:Hello dear friends, hope u can help me with my agony :(. So my boyfriend and i broke up a month back, we live 13 hour flight time away from each other. We met 9 months back went out for 3 months then he had to move to another country. He was very suspicious at start, disappearing for few days every time he travels , ignoring emails and texts. I had trust issues after i saw few of his messages to other women, not very threatening to our relation but still flirtatious! So i went to see him a couple of months back and it was great and i decided to move there for him and i found a job there and planned to move in 3 months . After i came back to my country i started fightting with him over ignoring my calls or texts for an entire day in the weekend and we had several misunderstandings caused by my mistrust that was triggered by his uncommitted behaviour! To cut the story short, we broke up a month back and i emailed him a week ago telling him that i miss him and that we should not end it on bad terms. So we started chatting again, i told him i want to come and see him to talk and agreed to see for dinner, but the i asked him to see him more than a dinner. He disappeared again for 2 days then ignored my request till i cornered him, so he said that he has a cousin visiting him and he has to see him too! I didn't buy that but didn't argue. So he offered instead if i come the weekend after and christams with his mother but i declined due to spending it with my family. He's been acting cold after i got i touch again, and ignores some of my emails or texts, i asked him to spend new year with me and he still didn't reply from yesterday! is this normal guys??? is he seeing someone else? or taking his time to cool down? please help me.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (9 December 2010):
 He's your ex, it doesn't sound like he's wanting to get back together. In fact, I don't know why you're trying to rekindle this when it's clear he doesn't want a relationship with you anymore. He's NOT that into you, never was from the start. In fact, I'd put my finger on he has a girlfriend, hence the disappearing act and flirtatious texts.
To answer your question, no, he's not taking time to cool off and this isn't normal behavior. Now, it is typical behavior for a guy who doesn't want to be with you. Move on sweetie, and i suggest moving back to your country.
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