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writes:I am horrible at these kinds of things...never really had any relationships in HS, had 2 in college so yeah...Im pretty much new to all this.I think he likes me...and so do my friends...so why hasn't he asked me out???He...-Pokes me (though yesterday he poke someone else and then blamed it on me!)-Nudges me (he nudged me so I poked him and hes like "why are you so mean to me!?" and then turns to the guy beside him "shes abusive to me.")-Gives me high-fives (yesterday when he gave me one he grasped my hand for a bit..longer than needed)-talking to me in class all the time and then on facebook too-asking if he can steal one of my fries off my plate-sometimes I catch him looking at me-picks on me-we spent about 4 hours together yesterday (I saw him so we talked for a bit then he was like “guess ill follow you” so we staid together and sat together watching the game)-it was really cold so I huddled close to him and he didn’t object (when we were separated once because someone stepped between us, he returned to the closeness we had before afterwards – though no arms around eachother so it wasn’t like cuddling)-one time we were walking around and he was doing something that embarrassed me so I was like "I disown you!" he goes "you owned me? I didnt know this! were not committed." (what was that all about? Should I be worried? Or is that a good sign?)-one of my 'friends' (she had 3 bfs at one time and then likes/flirts with 7 of the guys in class) tried flirting with him..I was giving her the death look lol but he ignored her …my friend went up to him later on and said "you know she was flirting with you right?" he goes "yeah I know...I was trying to ignore her.")-and he obeys me lol….if he does something I dont like all I have to do is look at him and he stops XD (or he does things like this…when I was trying to record something I told him to ‘sush im recording!” he starts going “blah blah blah” for a bit fooling around )What do you think? Does he like me? This has been going on for about a month now…I'd rather him ask me out because normally when I ask people out I get rejected, and I'm horrible with rejection (I cry easily.) .
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou give me new found confidence. I am a pretty impatient person at times, and waiting for him to ask is just driving me crazy; all I do is think about him now-a-days. Recently I have started to question things, and get nervous…asking “what if I’m reading the signs all wrong and he doesn’t actually like me?” Waiting for him to ask lets my mind get away with itself and these negative thoughts run though my head…and then he goes and does something like he did on Thursday and stand at the bottom of the staircase while im making my way to the third floor…yelling my name! He said it about three times before I realized and stopped letting him catch up. =) We talked pretty much about nothing, but it was still something to make my day brighter. Or like lastnight when I was extremely board and back home because we had Monday off, and my facebook status was set to “Bored.” He popped up on the messenger saying “Stop being bored! :D:D” I was unbored until sadly his Ipod died and he had to get offline (he was using it to chat) but he made sure to tell me bye before it died reassuring “we will talk later ;)” He didn’t seem very talkative tonight, but I think he was happy that I was back on campus. Since he posted on my facebook status that said “back at college” with a “lies! :D”
Like you said I think he is scared that I don’t like him like that, and I want to know if theres subtial ways I could hint that I do? Just to coax him a bit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2009): sounds like my boyfriend and me! LOL we were friends for quite a while though, about a year, and vowed to never ruin our circle of friends with stupid relationship drama. somehow our friendship developed into a relationship. he admitted to me that he was scared to ask me out because the last girl who 'seemed' to like him called him crazy and gross, basically cut off his balls and made him feel like he wasn't anything worth having. so by the time we liked eachotehr he was scared to death, and somehow after lots of coaxing he asked me out. so basically, give him time. you don't know what his past holds, what has happened to him or what hasn't. if he truly does like you he won't let you fall for someone else, he just has to get around to asking you out once he's comfortable with you. patience is key. good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh sorry .
I live 3 hrs from him
and 5hrs from Springfield
He lives in St. Charles
and I live in NE Missouri
The competition will be at Mizzou
Which our college is not too far from Mizzou
I hear Kickapoo High has a pretty good band so it will be interesting to see them
but yeah Lil Abner is fiction
A Comic turned Musical
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2009): Oh and about Kickapoo joy joice, Kickapoo is the name of an Indian Tribe in these parts.....Lil Abner, I think is fiction.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2009): Ok, so I don't understand any of that code, text speak, I'm old, but have fun at Kickapoo High, where do you live, you don't live near him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthats awesome!
and yeah
He was naming off some of the bands that was going to be there and I just laughed when I heard Kickapoo
Because In HS I was in the musical Lil Abner and the Indian makes moonshine he calls Kickapoo Joy Joice
which is what I said before he said:
Him: That is the high school that Brad Pitt went to
---and update :D hes so cute haha
11:47pm HIM
btw, I'm a major third
11:47pm ME
?
major third?
11:49pm HIM
interval
11:50pm HIM
like , G to A
wait
G to B
11:50pm ME
yeah I got it .
have to remember its been almost 3 yrs since Ive been in band
or done anything with music
11:52pm HIM
meh it's ok
freaking history majors . . .
I mean....hi!
11:53pm ME
hey =(
11:53pm HIM
love you....lots....
?
11:53pm ME
suck up
but ill take it
11:54pm HIM
lol sweet
I like this game
11:54pm ME
;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2009): High school Brad Pitt went to? You mean Kickapoo in Springfield? Guess where I am from? Went to Glendale, though...Have a good Halloweenie!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionokay okay
he says he worded it wrong and meant to say
"still want to go with me?"
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionah! I can't believe he just did that .
Him: That is the high school that Brad Pitt went to and are you wanting to come with me to that?
Me: you asked me like two weeks ago and I said yes .
Him: ah right, ok lol
He forgot he asked me!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, Roboaxe +, writes (14 October 2009):
 This "Halloween" request is absolutely and positively a date. He is just disguising it a bit, and avoiding saying the word "ask out" or "date" because he knows it usually scares off girls. I think you already have your date, and I would recommend against asking him when he will ask you out, since this Halloween thing is him asking you out without saying those words. I hope it goes well!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionA few days ago he asked me if I wanted to spend Halloween with him.
We are both in our College's Marching Band and he is studying to become a Band Director and on Halloween his High School Band will be going to a Marching Competition, and he asked if I wanted to go with him.
A date? Possibly!? :D
I've been wondering if he is just waiting until then to ask me out?
or if he doesnt I wondered if I should say something about it when we get back to campus afterward, such as....
Me: "when are you going to ask me?"
Him: "ask you what?"
Me: "out! You've been flirting with me for weeks."
or is that a bad idea? .
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reader, Roboaxe +, writes (13 October 2009):
In light of recent events, I am pretty damn sure that he in fact likes you in that way. I am puzzled as to why he has not made his move yet.
If another week goes by and he continues to put it off, I would suggest trying to sneak a date in there somehow. While you're walking together grab something to eat, or drink. Maybe this will finally give him a very very clear sign that it's okay for him to ask you out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionabout the other girl thing
He doesn't really talk to many others
Theres a couple but he never acts with them like he does with me
Not that I or my friends have noticed anyway
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reader, Roboaxe +, writes (12 October 2009):
Yes, he likes you.
But I don't know if he likes you in that way.
Guys usually take very little time to determine whether or not they would like to date a girl, and if he continues to be friendly to you but does not make a move, he is still probably unsure whether he would like to start a relationship with you, or he may be flirting with other girls as well and seeing which would be the best catch for him.
OR
The alternate scenario is that he does like you, but doesn't know if you like him, in which case he doesn't want to do something which he thinks will scare you off. Guys are always terrified of spooking off the girl they like because they do things too fast. I know I am.
By the looks of it you have given him plenty of signs, so just step up your signs to make it really obvious that you like him a lot, as this will hopefully motivate him to ask you out. Rhythmandblues advice is sound.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI try...I flirt with him a lot...or I think I do.
Sometimes I brush him but not a lot. We mostly just touch when he gives me hi-5s or when he pokes me so I poke him back.
Yesterday when we were huddling fro, the cold I put my head on his shoulder. I took the fact that he didn't make me remove it as a good sign. :D
My flirting style is real sarcastic, so I'm very sarcastic with him. Like sometimes I tell hi "you fail." Then he pretends to be sad and hangs his head.
He checks to make sure im okay...I had a very bad day last week and we sat talking about it for a bit...and then the next day he came up to me in class and asked if I was feeling any better. ^_^
Also I'm very shy...I am only outgoing with people I am close to...and I think he is somewhat shy himself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2009): I think he likes you definitely and he is taking it slowly and trying to develop a friendship first.
If you like him and the next time you are alone and close, if he sort of cocks his head and looks down at his shoes, then he is probably needing encouragement from you. Kiss him.
If you aren't that bold, start touching his arm lightly and leave it there for awhile. Flirt back, guys need encouragement.
Maybe is just hoping you will give him a sign that you like him more than as just a friend, so give him one.
Good luck.
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