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I think he just wants sex! how can I change this?

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Question - (15 September 2010) 5 Answers - (Newest, 15 September 2010)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

so i just moved to a new area and i met this boy at work and hes completly my type and hes always flirting with me and txtin me but i think he jus wants sex... is there somethin i can do to change that...???

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A female reader, xanthic United States +, writes (15 September 2010):

xanthic agony auntI agree with the others completely, having sex with him too soon will ruin your chances of being seen as a potential girlfriend, because you made it too easy. Men like to chase, so let him chase you. If he loses interest after a month or two, he was only after one thing.

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A female reader, birdynumnums Canada +, writes (15 September 2010):

birdynumnums agony auntYes. Don't sleep with him.

If he wants you, he should at least be willing to get to know you first; like at least 6 months.

By then, he'll at least have either decided that you are more than an easy lay and have taken the time to have fallen for you; or you will have figured out that he is a loser and move on.

Either way, it's a win/win for you - you will have either won his interest or avoided disappointment.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2010):

If he just wants sex, you probably can't change his mind.

But, if you're actually interested in dating him, give him a chance. Don't let him pressure you into just sleeping with him. Go on dates to help him get to know you better.

It's totally up to him what he wants out of a relationship with a woman. You can't force him into a real relationship, and it's not worth trying. If he's not interested in commitment, move on. You'll eventually find someone worth your time.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2010):

Date him but don't give in and have sex with him right away. See how long he stays interested.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2010):

Do you mean, is there something to do that will change the way he feels about you and not drive him away? Because you can change his desire to have sex with you... that's EASY, but he'll bolt.

Basically, if a guy sees you as an easy lay, and that's all he wants, then it's virtually impossible to get him to see you any other way. Go on a date, and DO NOT GET PHYSICAL, and don't let him rush it. If he's really interested in you, he'll honor your position. If he's only trying to get into your pants, he'll lose interest pretty quick.

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