| A
female
,
anonymous
writes: HelloI am 17, and in a relationship with my boyfriend which has been going on for 20 months now. i am very comftable with him and we are fantastic together. but i am always thinking about him cheating on me. he has girls mates at his work, and i hate him talking to them. i am always wondering what he is up to and how he acts around them. alot has gone on in the past with them, for example him texting them alot and hiding the texts from me. it has made me so suspicious and i really cant stand it no more. i feel like there is something secretive going on all the time. im starting to think im mad, but realise its him thats making me think like this. please give me some advice.xx
View related questions:
text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2006): everyone else keeps telling you that you are being overly paranoid and that he needs to 'DRIVE' away from you as fast as possible. but i think that's a bunch of crap. granted, sometimes people really are overly jealous and paranoid, but the fact that this guy texts other girls and hides it from you is a pretty big clue that he may not be being faithful. unfortunately, i used to do that kind of thing. i'd write things to other girls and when my girlfriend would question me, i'd turn it around on her and tell her to stop snooping in my business. that she had no right to check my phone or my email because that's an invasion of my privacy. anyway, if i was being faithful, i wouldn't have cared if she looked because i would have had nothing to hide. but since i did, i wouldn't let her. anyway, when people have something to hide, they'll hide it. and when they don't, they won't. end of story.
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2006): Well, if you think he's SO untrustworthy when away from you, perhaps you'd better lock him in a cage and never let him out.
Thinking you OWN someone is bound to drive you insane. I'm not surprised he won't let you see texts he sends to women friends.
If I were him, I wouldn't run away from you - I'd DRIVE - its faster. You know, might persuade him to do just that, if you continue with this line of thought.
That's my advice.
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2006): he is NOT cheating on you - you might be paranoid
...............................
A
female
reader, Just An Opinion +, writes (6 August 2006):
Okay, read your last sentence. "...but I realize
it's him that's making me think like this." First of all , he is not "making" you do anything. You are choosing to let this bother you. Second of all, if I had guess, then I would say that your intuition is correct. No matter what his excuse is, if he is hiding things from you, then it is likely that he has something to hide. I think you know the answer. Third, you are 17 and have been with someone for almost 2 years. Please take some time to have fun. You are not "fantastic" together if he is hiding things from you and lying to you. Good Luck!
...............................
|
