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*aytie-babey
writes:Well.. I firstly want to thank anyone who replys to this it means a lot to me.I am in love with a boy (lets call him T) I have been since August last year. Me and T dated a lot like not as boyfriend and girlfriend but it was dates as we kissed and things. Then I made a relationship with T after a while of dating, but he ended it with me because he wanted 'to be a flirt' I still love him and haven't stopped since he ended it, and I have told him I still love him but he says he wants to be nothing more than friends.But we spoke again properly tonight and he was reminiscing all of our memorys with me, and it killed me inside, so I think he could still love me to but I'm not sure because he said nothing more than friends :/ Please, please help me out.Kaytie. xxx
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reader, heather108  +, writes (23 January 2010):
 Kaytie, dating is all about gaining experience and experimenting. Problem is that the two people involved in a relatioship will almost never come to the decision to end it at ehe same time.
"I want to be a flirt" is just the most polite thing he could come up with as a way to say "it's time for us to move on"...
Personally, I have a 9 year long past history of changing boyfriends pretty often because I'm really not yet looking for a long term relationship and all the complications that go along with it.
About the "kissing and things",,, do it for fun until you hook up with a guy that's sure about wanting just you.
I wish you well.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (23 January 2010):
 He basically wanted to tell you that he had a good time with you but has decided to stop and fall back on the friends level. When people reminiscent, they are thinking about the past. The dream cannoy carry on to the future because he does not feel the same with you. He wants to be a flirt, because that eases tension between the two sexes.
We ran out of vocabulary for the words love, friends, couples, etc. There are many different kinds of love and his love right now could be a love of flirting, playful love, while yours is a love of yearning and connection.
You should take time away from him and don't talk to him again until you know you would not expect anything more from him.
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