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anonymous
writes:Basically I found out My boyfriend cheated on me. We went to a freqklash together in June which is a rave and at about 1 in the morning he just left without telling me n was supposed to stay at mine. I thought it was strange. Then I got told about a week ago and sent the screen shots, I've barley slept!! I asked him so many times but he keeps denying it saying it's not true. I've asked the girl to meet me to show me the messages from her phone so I can tell him I've seen them myself and that they are real and I know he done it but she's been ignoring me for days, it's pissing me off! She knew I was with him when they slept together so it's the least she could do ! And I don't know what to do. He keeps telling me it's lies and the messages wasn't sent from his phone but the screenshots have his number and the date an time on. He says they are probably photoshopped but the texts are the exact way he texts. We have a family unit , both have children and I don't want to loose him I love him so much and it's so hard because I don't want things to end I want him to be honest with me, I want us to speak properly and try and work through it together. Maybe he made a mistake but him lying is driving me insane. Please help, I have no idea what to do. I don't know what I'd do if we split up, he's become my life. I speak go him daily and see him all the time. I've even asked him to move in with me and I feel like if we loose eachother it's gonna destroy me.Help somebody pleaseX
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (30 November 2015):
 So you believe he cheated and is lying about it now.
You want to see it from HER because why? will it change anything?
He is upset that he got caught. Be glad you dodged the bullet before you moved in with the kids...
you will probably NEVER trust him again with good reason
the woman he cheated on you with owes you NOTHING.
if you have told him that you would forgive him and work on it just this once then he will try it again and you will have to leave the second time.
it will be harder
you clearly don't believe or trust him, what kind of a relationship will this be for your children to see?
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reader, Roboaxe +, writes (30 November 2015):
 You can never trust him again. Period.
I was cheated on too, and despite that, it felt bad to break up with her I loved her dearly.
But you are better off without him. You don't need further evidence. You will find somebody else, I promise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2015): He cheated on you, no more proof is needed. The next move is yours. He will continue to deny because iin addition to cheating he is now lying. You will never get closure or an apology until you decide what is next. You either pretend he didn't lie and cheat or you break up. The choice is yours. This advice sounds harsh but you must get control of your emotions and make a decision, his decision is already made. He has decided to lie, cheat and pretend you are crazy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2015): First of all, the other woman doesn't need to show you those texts - she wasn't the one who was meant to be faithful to you and therefore has nothing to make up for. Your bf on the other hand needs to pull bus head out of his arse and realise he's been caught.
Even with evidence, he is lying. Do you truly think you can trust him again? Leaving a liar and a cheat won't destroy you, it'll be heartbreaking and tough; continuing to live with a liar and cheat could destroy you.
You need to tell him clear you want the truth or he's gone. Give him one week to arrange to see you and to tell you the truth. If he doesn't, then stick to your word and after a week tell him it's over and leave his things for him to collect. I think in his head he thinks he still has a chance at convincing you. Don't be walked all over; you deserve better than someone who would desert you on a night out, cheat and then lie about it.
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