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writes: Good day Ladies, and gents.Need some advice, and I know this has been asked, but from a lady, and at the risk of sounding naive, and vain, I need some help.I am 22, single, self employed, hard working and I'm financially stable. I'm pretty confident around the people that I know.When I meet new people, I really enjoy if they are open and "willing" to start a converation..."Who wouldn't", I dislike having a converation with someone, and you are the only one talking, and the other person is just staring!I've been told that I'm a flirt, but I don't know, although always seem to caht more with the girls than guys. when in a conversation with someone I like to ask questions and ask for peoples opinions so that they can see that I really do enjoy their company, and enjoy lifting their spirits, with what I'd call my charm.Now there are times that I want to approach someone, and I feel that they are out of my league, but that'd be my being shy or afraid to make a fool of myself.I look after myself, and have been told on several occassions that i look like, actor, Ryan Phillip, so I guess that's not a bad thing.But recently I was told that I come across as a powerful, confident guy, that gives the impression that I have a perfect flawless girlfriend, and that I look "taken" and perhaps that's what makes people shy to approach me too????I don't mean to do that intentionally, but what can I do to make myself seem more free and...well,... single.How does a guy flirt without giving the wrong signals, and looking decent, instead of drooling at other people in a classic, charming way.Thank you.
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reader, camille  +, writes (22 June 2006):
 Firstly, there is NO league, so everyone is someone you can potentially date. You don't sound shy to me, so just ask them if they are single and if they'd like to go out for dinner or something. Possible problems are that either the people you talk to aren't single or you're not picking up their signals? If you're flirty and don't know it, you may be missing that coming back from the girls. Try and be more observant and 'learn' how to spot flirting, that way you may work out who likes you, and then feel more comfortable asking. (Not all girls who flirt are single though so beware!)
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