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*ellilove2000
writes:I love my boyfriend somuch but we've come to the end of the road with our relationship. I have tolerated alot of pain from him. I yarn for closeness and committment from my boyfriend but he is never ready for me. He only yarns for me when he wants sex. He cheats on me with other women.I got pregnant recently and told him. He said I should keep it just like that. When I told him it wasn't right cos my family will not accept it so he should meet my parents with his family so that we could get married and prevent disgracing my family and myself.My boyfriend said he is not ready and that I should keep the pregancy. He is 33 and am 28 and staying with my uncle and his wife. I have dated this guy for almost 5 years and if this has happended he tells me to keep it just like that and that he is not ready for marriage. And so all this while he was never serious with me.Infact I got angrey and told him I will get raid of the pregancy and break up the relationship with him because he cares for himself alone and not me. He wants his baby but not me.He realised I was very angrey, so he came with someone to apologise and that he was secared and did not know what to do. I forgave and changed my mind. He was never there for me in the course of the 3 months pregancy. I have to call and beg him to visit me before he does. He never cared for me. Infact I was so hurt and felt lonely. The emotional torment was too much for me.I got raid of the pregancy and I have told am no more interested in the relationship and that it was over between us.This guy will not let me go. He says he can not stop loving me and that am the only woman he truely loves. He is pleading all over for me to forgive him. He is my first boyfriend and I deeply love him but am determined not to go back to him. It hurts me somuch that I've loved him truely all this years and he treats me with no respect. I want to stop loving him. I've met someone else and I want to give that love to him. He is always there for me.Please advice me. Reply to this Question
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reader, 2old4this  +, writes (7 January 2008):
 You already know what to do. You're taking charge of your life and doing the right thing. If he ever loved you he never would have done all those things. People make misstakes, but come on. I may not agree with terminating the pregnancy but I can see why you wanted to. Move on like you are, cut all ties, good ridance.
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reader, AJ jess ^..^  +, writes (7 January 2008):
 i know it is my opinion but i would say leave this guy and go for your new one you have found, forget about the past and start a new life you deserve to be treated with respect not to be shoved around mentally by this guy xx
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