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*azzie1
writes:Confused, I've been going out with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years off and on. I already have trust issues with him for stuff he did in the past. I happen to look into his wallet, and I find a buisness card of a woman, I calle the # and I asked her how she knew him and she said well he comes to my office for therapy..then I had happened to ask him about it and he said he didn't know because he has so many cards in his wallet and he is forgetting alot of stuff since his accident. Do u think it's normal for someone out of anger to throw you with a shoe because he's being accused of something that's not true. Reply to this Question
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (8 January 2008):
 You can trust anything but not money matters.The accident may have jarred his mind and you have to give him the benefit of doubts.
What you did was improper.To look into his wallet and then confronting him about it.You invaded his privacy and showed your mistrust of him .Any man would get angry if you do that. How would you feel if he checks your phone for texts or look into your purse or diary?
You could look into his wallet but you should not confront him with what you know. Keep it to yourself . If you asked him , you are in fact telling him that you are checking on him.
He got very angry when you confronted him about that woman and he lost his cool and could not control his emotions or anger. It may be due to the accident and his brain is no more the same.(quick to anger).
You precipitated or caused him to lose control.Hope , the next time he will be able to control his anger and emotions and you should not press those ballistic buttons on him again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2008): It might not be normal, but I know there are alot of people out there like that. They cant control their anger, and mabe he really did need that therapy!
I dont know him personally, but all I have to say is eaither get over his past and trust the fact that hes learned from his mistakes earlier on in the relationship, or if you truely feel as if you cannot put anymore trust into him, move on and find someone that will not be unfaithful and have the little "temper tantrums." Like the saying goes, "men are like buses, another one comes by every five min." and more then likely at least one will not break the trust, or hit you with a shoe :)
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