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writes:I have been with my husband for 14 years, 3 of those married. The problem is that I have a huge problem with telling lies about stupid things that don't need to be lied about. Every time I begin to redeem myself, I lie about something stupid, like working out when I really didn't. The last one has come to a head and I may lose my husband because of it. I tried couseling, but only use 6 sessions because they were free.I am going back for better help. I am so torn over this and am not sure how to fix it. I need help to try and show him that I have been scared straight and am going to take permanent measurements to change. Any ideas? Reply to this Question
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reader, doom  +, writes (17 November 2010):
 there a word like mythimania (hope i wrote it corectly) a person who lies even if he doesn't need to lie....i think you should tell your husband about it, and try beeing honest , and deel with it together, because it's a beet mental problem...i'm not saying you have this diagnose, just it's similar, and only with help together you could get rid of it.May be begin an agenda were you write what are you doing each day.I do'nt think you would lie or imagine something in your diary.:) good luck
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 November 2010):
 It sounds to me like you are a compulsive liar, meaning that you just cant help lying at times and it comes out of your mouth without you even realising. There are some people out there that have really bad cases of this, it is actually a condition i have a friend that i have known since i was 4 and she lies to everyone about everything really silly little things and big things that arent even funny, and i actually truely believe that she actually believes these lies herself.
Am afraid the only advise i can give you is to go back and get more help even if you have to pay for it, also get information on it so that your husband can help you through this not accuse you.
Most people in your shoes are in denial so good for you that you realise that you have a problem and that you need help, its very brave of you. Lying just becomes habit and second nature after a while and highly addictive so go and get help soon, goodluck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2010): The only thing that will show him is time and effort. Plus if I were you I'd get the counselor to sign a dated card after each session as proof that you're actually going. Otherwise he might just think you're lying again.
You probably have a compulsive disorder called pseudologia fantastica (yes it's an actual term) it can be treated. But remember knowing you have a disorder is a means to treatment not a get out of jail free card.
Just work at it and make sure you keep trying to solve this, that's the only way you can prove it to him.
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