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writes:I've been with my bf for a year and half..I saw him working one day and decided to talk to him and we exchanged numbers..in the beginning this were great.. 2 months into it he heard stuff from people that was not true..and started calling me a hoe and every other dirty word. But I told him id never do that I swore on it ...8 months into the relationship he found a number on me that was not mine I told him it was not but he beat me up and said he didn't want me...it was 1 week before my bday and he left me alone and went to vegas for 2 weeks and called on my bday and cursed me out..he came back saying swearing he had not done anything with anyone else he loves me he realized...I forgave him but every time a guy looks at me he says I slept with him or have something with him when I don't even know them..I work at a restaurant.. and he says I mess with everyone there..he fights with me and goes out to party calls and says he loves me.. I have not cheated on him and take his curses and beating cause I love him..I don't know what to do...plz help
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2010): What are you expecting someone to write to you? Are you expecting one of us to tell you to suck it up and take the beatings? Are you expecting us to tell you to stick it out? Seriously, get real here. You wouldn't ask this question if you didn't already know the answer. Leave him.
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reader, Kama  +, writes (31 May 2010):
 There is someone better for you; leave.
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reader, Waiting for an angel +, writes (31 May 2010):
Why do you take this? Have some respect and love for yourself. If he loved you or at least cared for you he would not hit you. I jst cant unserstand how so many women can be in such a dangerous relationship, you have both you hands and feet im assuming; then leave him and make a living on your own. Do you have family ; friends? Does anyone give you advice on your mistakes, seriously unless you want to end up dead leave him and dont ever come back to him. Stand up for yourself have some dignity, you were born alone you dont need such a person to survive.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (31 May 2010):
Leave. Unless you want to end up dead or in a wheelchair. You don't love him. You just stick with him because your own esteem is so low that you think he is the best you can do. There is no love here at all. There is a woman who has esteem issues, and a man who is a control freak. He doesn't care about you in any way. You need to leave.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (31 May 2010):
 You can deal with the beatings but no the accusations?
I think you take the saying "Sticks and stones may break my bones (but words will never hurt me)." a bit to literal.
Then again you also got a weird concept of love. Somehow you think it is the perfect excuse to accept anything. "I love him and so he can do anything to me he wants".
Love doesn't work that way. Neediness does.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2010): Hello,
You don't deserve this erratic behaviour. He's belittling you to make you relaint on him. Slowly chewing at your self esteem. He's jealous, and worstly he has hit you. This is toxic, and in my opinion will only become worse.
There's many good men out there that will respect you, and love you. This isn't love on his behalf.
Walk away...
Good luck
;D
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