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writes:HiOk i have something i need a little advice on ...Have known this guy for years, used to talk to him on the phone at work as worked in another office for the same company so had to talk to him sometimes, and on work nights out we'd get on well. Just thought he was a nice guy .. so that was years ago .. then about 3 weeks/month ago i bump into him down this pub and we get on great chatting all night and catching up, still seemed like a nice guy. He was with a very good looking guy (he knew i thought this about his friend) and my friend was joking to him about it to and that he should set us up! i hate being set up so just avoided the subject ... so anyway this guy that i'd known for years took my number and we were just haveing conversations evryday just chit chat as friends do but then he would put the odd joke in that if i didnt go on a date with his friend he'd love to take me out. We were texting everyday, then after a couple of weeks of this we were out again (in a group) and i realised i actually started to have feelings for him. We were doing the eye a bit that night and at the end of it we kissed. After this he went a bit offish and he finally admitted he had only been split up with his ex for a couple of weeks and still had feelings for her and felt guilty for kissing me. I told him i completely understood this and it was fine and we'll be friends. Then after this, we shared another kiss and he stayed over (nothing happened, even though he was trying to be a bit touchy feely!) which I know i shouldnt of kissed him back ... so anyway i have heard nothing from him since ... i know his head was mucked up .. but didn't know if obviously he was just trying his luck to use me for 1 thing! (thought he had a bit more respect for me than that but maybe not!) But the thing is I do actually really like him as a mate and have fun with the people we know so i dont know whether just to give him his distance and not be in touch with him or get in touch and just let him know there's no hard feelings and we can be mates ... what does anyone think?
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reader, skyking90  +, writes (13 October 2009):
 Well im not on advice on this subject since it happened the other way around with me! Iv known this girl all my life and when we where younger she liked me but I was the tipical guy and didn't nottice but when we where 17 or so we went to watch fireworks and she kept kuddleing next to me(nothing happened) then she moved but her family kept visiting and staying at my house, she would sneek in my room and we would talk till the sun came up (literaly) and nothing ever happened but last year the same old thing happened shed sneak in and we talked wich led to fooling around after a while I noticed she seemed to be getting sad, she left the room crying little did I kno she had a bf at the time! I told her tht it wasn't her fault and that the only reason we couldn't b together was because she lived far away and that loved her nomatter what happened! I still love her and wanna b with her not for sexual stuff but because I jenually want to b with her! However she seems too stop feeling tht way tords me tho she still stays tht night and we talk like always but I can't seem to get out of that friend catigory.. So I kno how u feel I wish I could b of more help but the best thing I think we can both do is b there for them and wait it out if its ment to b then it will be
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