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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I really still love my ex. He has moved on! i want to but i just cant! He treated me like dirt! he took away my virginity and then dumped me a week later! i thought it was true love. I really miss him and would do anything to get him back but i know i cant.can anyone give me any adive on what to do or how to feel? i feel soooo messed up :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2007): Hi, I am sorry, men can be such losers some times. Most of us women are the same, we dream of that one knight in shining armour that will sweep us off our feet and love us forever, and whom we would totally devote our hearts too, but then we realise that only really happens in the movies and the imaginations of our minds..most of the time.
Honestly, if he truly did what you say he did, he is not worth it. You are better than that. One day you will realise that he was never worth your heart, your time, or your love, but it will take time. All I can say is, you deserve better and it will come along.. I know you can't see that right now, but I promise you will!
From my own experiences - men have screwed me around like that in the past too, now I make them live up to my expectations rather than me worrying about trying to live up to theirs..
In the meantime, keep yourself busy and distracted, and do things that make you happy. And don't listen to soppy love songs.., dont say his name to your friends, and dont think about him, think about other things. What do you like? Art? Dance? Sport? Do those things.. now is the time.. Take care sister xxxx
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (18 January 2007):
 This person let you down and hurt you. Why would you want to go back for more?
I know, because you love him. Well, you should love yourself first!
you did nothing wrong, it is natural you miss him and of course it is painful. But be strong, the pain will eventually go away, give it time.
Find someone who deserve your love. Keep busy, enjoy life, get out there, and next time you start dating again, take it slow.
Good luck x
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (18 January 2007):
 try to put it behind you hun i know its hard but as they say time heals all wounds..go out with youre friends be in a more possitive enviroment.. and when youre alone if you need to cry cry, but then stop and tell youre self that he isnt worth the tears you shed.. try new things, ask friends to do new hobbies with you.. ure very young and i dont need to give you the youre to young to have done it speech because its ilegal, but sometimes *SOME only some(for those nice guys out their* will say anything to get you into bed.. i wish i hadnt slept with anyone and was still a virgin, and had the patience to wait for the right man for me...thats what im doing now i know its a little late lol but better late than never lol.. try and move forward and leave it in the past..be happy youre young plenty of time, best advice leave the growen up stuff till youre older most people make better judgements tho they still get it wrong.. hope this helps xxx A
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reader, moomoomoo  +, writes (17 January 2007):
 time heals all, but it probably takes a long time for some people, it took me like 2 years to completely get over someone cuz i realized that she really doesn't live up to my expectations now that i think about it.
i suggest you get into new things, take this opportunity to be productive. either get a new hobby or do something useful to improve yourself and keep yourself busy
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