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*earsbehindhappiness
writes:I been holding this in for awhile now I guess, I keep missing my ex even though we been over for almost 2 years now. We lived together for two years before our breakup and knew each other since teenage year. In some way he saved me from myself but in the end I couldn't save him from self destruction not only did he cheat on me he even stole from me in the end. Back and forth break up make up for so long finally came to a end when he cheated on me with my next door neighbor. Now im in a healthy happy relationship the man loves me very very much we are going on vacation tomorrow but I'm crying my eye balls out over my ex tonight, I just felt like me and my ex was from the same world but some reason we missed each other. Someone please slap some sense into me and tell me why i can't get over him after all this time. Especially since he just had a baby this month with some ugly girl made me feel like how could he just so easily have a kid with someone else after everything we been through in someways i felt like he is always mine, there were a time when he was willing to literally die for me he was the one I thought i was going to marry. can people just come and leave you life like they never existed?
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reader, tearsbehindhappiness +, writes (12 July 2010):
tearsbehindhappiness is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks guys I feel a lot better this morning the feeling always comes and goes but forever remains i guess this is what happens when someone hurts you too deeply you might think you're fixed but your hurt, betrayal, lies, and of course the wonderful times will always remain and that pulls you from moving on at times.
Huggme12- Thanks for your words of comfort your "everything happens for a reason" made everything better and said it all you're right once a cheater always a cheater and men don't change. I kept telling myself that but for some odd reason, i always tend to think of the good things the little things.
Deadeye- If she cheated on you and she's not the one for you, from a females perspective when we are in love with a guy we can't think of any other man we wouldn't want any other man to touch us, but by what you're talking about seems like she's completely out of love with you, life is no9t a fairy tale where love lasts forever in a world where everything is so materialistic and practical people do fall out of love with one another. The goal is to move on because apparently you two weren't on the same page and trust me it wouldn't of worked out in the long run even if you held tightly to it. It would only burn more. Love is acidic once it breaks so its better to have short term pain then long term. So move and meet some new gal!! :) wish you luck and the best
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reader, DeadEyeDick +, writes (12 July 2010):
 Yes Huggme12 is right, guys are stupid! and girls are heartless, my ex who I was with for 10 years cheated, then when we were "working things out" she was secretly withdrawing, grieving, and falling out of love with me, all along telling me things like "it's coming back" and "it's working, the love is coming back" and "i love you so much I couldnt see my life without you" guess what? the second I snapped on her for chatting it up with another guy, she told me she didnt love me anymore and she split, was banging this other guy the same week we split, and to this day, says I scare her and doesnt want to be my friend. we got along well, and in all reality, had been getting along at the time of our split, better then we ever had before, yes I still feel hollow in my gut, I feel anger, rage, pain, sadness, remember all the amazing magical times we had, but once again, she must not remember shit, but I do, I learned a heartless girl can look you in the eye and tell you she loves you, and your soulmates, and not mean a word of it, she couldnt have told the truth if it was on a teleprompter, what sucks is I still miss her, and thats the most madening thing about it, she obviously doesnt miss a thing about me, so my heart goes out to you, I wish I could forget about her as quick as she did me!!! this has been 7 months now, I dont get it either!
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reader, Huggme12 +, writes (12 July 2010):
 Guys are in general stupid sometimes. You and your ex shared alot of good times together so i don't blame you for remembering and missing him. In the end he threw away all the good times with you for a stupid fling. I promise a cheater is always a cheater he is probably going to end up old, bald,divorved, and missing you. You should just go on with this new guy because the old one is old news. I know how you feel but in the end ''everything happens for reason"
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